[X&Y] Pretty Women Out Walking With Gorillas Down My Street
Published: Fri, 10/10/14
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IN THIS EDITION: It's one of the most destructive mindsets a man
can possibly have when it comes to success with women.
Yet even some dating experts write about it as if it's a "given",
perhaps even good advice.
Find out what it is...and how to crush it.
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If you've ever truly wanted to GET women, Chick Whispering is
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At the end of today's newsletter I'm going to give you a very
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PRETTY WOMEN OUT WALKING WITH GORILLAS DOWN MY STREET
"Pretty women out walking with gorillas down my street
From my window I'm staring while my coffee grows cold
Look over there! (Where?)
There's a lady that I used to know
She's married now, or engaged, or something, so I am told
Is she really going out with him?
Is she really gonna take him home tonight?
Is she really going out with him?
'Cause if my eyes don't deceive me,
There's something going wrong around here"
--Joe Jackson ("Is She Really Going Out With Him", Look Sharp, 1978)
Not long ago I wrote to you about how we as guys have a
tendency to believe women think like we do when it comes to
attraction.
Or more specifically, I guess you could say we tend to think women
PROCESS attraction similarly to how we do.
For example, since we evaluate women as potential sexual partners
based largely on physical appearance (at least initially), we
assume women do also.
Hence Joe Jackson's little "dilemma" above.
But the reality is what it is: Women really, truly don't want a
guy who is "prettier" than they are. They want something else.
And it's not what YOU want, necessarily.
Similarly, it's often not even what you WANT them to want, either.
So sometimes, women end up with guys who just don't "compute"
according to our way of thinking.
And that manner of assuming the entire world, be its inhabitants
male or female really, thinks exactly like we do is a real killer.
Not only is it obviously arrogant to see things that way, it's
flat-out shortsighted. It's just not the case.
I've described before how this phenomenon weaves it's way into our
psyche and keeps us from success with women*, but I'm still getting
TONS of e-mails from guys who are still wrestling with the concept
pretty hard.
You can argue reality, or you can get in step with it.
So it's time to face it: We just cannot hamfist a woman's feelings
of attraction or otherwise. The floor is littered with the smashed
dreams of guys who argue reality according to women.
Meanwhile, the women we desire can be out with the same guys we
shake our heads at--and utterly thrilled with them.
In order to get a completely different perspective on all of this,
today I'm going to give you the benefit of seeing what happens when
a WOMAN thinks in this way. What does it look like when SHE
considers men to process attraction the way she does?
This may finally clarify how all of this works.
To that end, let me share with you something that happened earlier
this morning.
I got a call on Skype from a woman in Ireland who has just recently
met a guy, and had a few questions.
They met, had what appeared to be a decent first date, and he has
asked her out again.
But...he has asked her a question via email since that has troubled
her immensely. Offhandedly, he asked her what her interests and
hobbies were.
Now the woman is very concerned, because she doesn't have
"exciting, action-packed" hobbies. Further, she's worried that her
ambitions and life-plan aren't going to be enough to impress this
new guy.
In short, she's assuming that we as guys think like she does.
You see, women are wildly attracted to men with ambition,
motivation and passion...typically manifested in a PLAN that makes a
woman feel safe and secure, and which she can willingly hitch her
wagon to.
So when the guy (who was probably just making small talk) asked the
question he did, she automatically assumed HE was looking for the
same answers SHE would be looking for.
But really, my guess was that he would be perfectly happy with
sharing his exciting world with her, and welcoming her to some new
and cool pastimes.
Ultimately, as I shared with her, her new friend was likely most
interested in knowing that she was up for some exciting adventures
along the way as opposed being reticent to join in the fun.
It was a huge burden off of her shoulders to know she didn't have
to PROVIDE THE PLAN, or BE the source of those exciting adventures.
You may be rolling your eyes at this point.
Seriously, when was the last time YOU needed a woman to be a
world-class skydiver or have a plan for world domination in her
back pocket?
The answer is probably "never". In fact, we as guys usually would
rather not have to deal with such "intimidating" factors.
We want to lead. We want women to approve of our plan and jump on
the bandwagon with us.
And in the case of the woman I talked to this morning, the guy had
ALREADY asked her out on a second date. She had succeeded at
creating attraction.
For her, it's now time to go with the flow instead of (*ahem*)
PRE-DISQUALIFYING herself based on...wait for it...her own assumptions
that men process attraction the way she does.
Otherwise, she's talking herself out of success with men in a
similar way we as guys talk ourselves out of success with women.
So yes. All of us--men and women alike--appear to be going around
assuming that MOTOS (Members Of The Other Sex) are attracted to
what they're attracted to.
Yet, at the same time men AND women also tend to consider the
opposite gender "enigmatic", pronouncing the possibility of
understanding members thereof "impossible".
So which is it? Do they think like we do, or are they "impossible"
to figure out?
It can't be both...unless, of course, we haven't even figured
OURSELVES out yet.
And let's face it. You've GOT to know what you want in a woman.
You've got to put aside the obstacles of the past, recognize what
your desires are and then deserve what you want.
Right now, you may be reading this newsletter and realizing that I
talk about things VERY differently than some other dating experts
out there.
In fact, in the last three audio interviews I've done, the
interviewer ended up saying the EXACT same thing in almost the same
exact words. "You know McKay, you talk about this stuff in a way
that nobody else really does...yet you make more sense."
Well, we aim to please around here.
Really, the issue is that understanding women and attracting them
does not involve a bunch of high-tech mumbo-jumbo.
It's simply a matter of finding out what women want from a great man,
and REPRESENTING that to them. (e.g. through the "Big Four")
The result? Great women in YOUR life.
I told you I had a "creative" way for you to get your hands my book
Chick Whispering. In that book, I show you exactly how to understand
women--by way of real-world scenarios like what you've read in this
newsletter.
So what I'm going to do for you is something I almost NEVER do.
Between now and midnight on Sunday, I'm going to make Chick
Whispering a part of the Red Package.
The Red Package is, of course, ALL FOUR books: Deserve What You
Want, Cook For Your Date, How To Manage Your Wildly Successful
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for the next 48 hours, which are slipping away. Here's where to
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There's even an audio version INCLUDED...all eight hours' worth.
Never, Ever Settle, the follow-up to Deserve What You Want, is
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valuable insight on women in there for you.
How To Manage Your Wildly Successful Dating Life is all about going
achieving true greatness with women. It's the book that contains
the blueprint for the infamous "Spreadsheet", along with showing you
how to easily date multiple women at once.
And Cook For Your Date? Well, that's the "nuclear weapon" when it
comes to creating attraction. This book will show you--step-by-step--
how to get any woman to invite HERSELF over to your place.
Are you kidding me? Enough said.
So it makes perfect sense that I would sweeten the entire deal with
a fresh copy of Chick Whispering. Once that piece of the puzzle is
added, you're pretty much on the road to being unstoppable.
Most guys don't pull the trigger on chances like this to make a
real difference in their success with women. So I want you to be
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And just for good measure, I'm still including ELEVEN BONUSES along
with the BONUS addition of Chick Whispering. That makes TWELVE
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One of those bonuses, which I highly recommend, is a month of Power
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that goes way beyond the call of duty, it gets you prioritized answers
to your e-mail questions from me personally. (Seriously.)
So there you have it. Here's your chance to snap everything up for
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Nice.
Have a great weekend, gentlemen. I'll talk to you again soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Have you STILL not connected with us on Facebook yet? There's
some great "extracurricular activity" going on there:
http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily
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