[X&Y] "Why Do Women Stop Returning My Calls?"
Published: Wed, 09/24/14
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Are you sick of going out on first dates only
to have women NEVER return your calls afterward? Here's how
to make sure that never happens...courtesy of a special guest.
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By now you know my main man Christian Hudson from The Social Man.
He's got the hottest new program on getting a girlfriend we've
seen in ages (and if you're on Power Sessions you got an entire
section of it in your inbox last night).
He also happens to be living the dream...hanging out in NYC and
dating some of the most beautiful women in the world.
You can't go wrong learning from this guy, so here's a guest
article from him about how to get a girlfriend.
Also definitely check out this presentation from him as well:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/gfas
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HOW TO MAKE SURE SHE RETURNS YOUR CALLS
--Christian Hudson (The Social Man)
There are certain human tendencies that are so natural... yet so
self-destructive...
For example, when you're dating a girl you really like, it's easy
to fall into the "let's solidify things" trap.
Here's how it works:
You start to like a girl, so you want to spend more time with her.
As your feelings grow for her, so too does your attachment to that
future with her.
You really want to kiss her. You really want her to be your
girlfriend.
So much so, in fact, that you start to get nervous and insecure
around her. And you start to feel a little possessive.
You're texting her and she tells you about her plans to see a band
play on Friday night... and all you can think is "why didn't she
invite me?"
You're on your second date with her and she tells you that she went
out to the bar last weekend. You immediately wonder if she gave
her number out to any other guys.
And you start looking for ways to "lock down" the future. You try
to get her to commit to plans. You subtly hint at the strength of
your feelings for her. Or maybe you even come out and ask her how
she feels about you.
I probably don't need to tell you that NONE of this is attractive
to a girl.
Yet it's weird, because when you like a girl, it feels very natural
to do this stuff.
So what's the solution?
Well, it's simple, but paradoxical.
When you're with her, you focus on having as MUCH fun as you can
while you're together...and NOT trying to confirm anything or lock
anything down.
Think about it: if you have tons of fun the first time you hang
out with someone, wouldn't you want to see them again?
And if it just kept going like that--where you had a great time
every time you hung out--wouldn't it be easy to end up in a
relationship with them?
But if they were a nervous wreck the whole time, and tried to PUSH
you into spending more time with them, the only way you'd do it
would be out of guilt.
And sorry to say it, but guilt doesn't get girlfriends.
So lesson number 1: live in the moment and focus on smiling, and
putting a smile on her face, when you're together.
Now let's take this one step further. Because not only do we want
a girl to have a ton of fun when she's hanging out with you, but we
want her to "invest" in a future with you so she starts thinking
about you a lot... and eventually obsessing over you.
I've got a saying for this:
"Live in the Moment, Flirt with the Future"
When you're with a girl, you're ALWAYS living in the moment. You
have as much fun with her as possible, and you trust that... if you
do so... she'll be as excited to spend more time with you as you
are with her.
But you ARE going to "flirt with the future."
In other words, you're going to drop little hints of stuff that
you're doing and stuff that she should do with you...but you're
going to mention them so casually that she won't know if you're
even being serious about it.
For example, if you're talking about your favorite pizza place in
the city...
"Wait, you haven't been to Artichoke Pizza? It is SO amazing.
We're totally going there next time we hang out. They actually
take Artichoke dip, mix it with cheese and bake it onto a deep dish
pizza. Where have you been that could possibly top that?"
Notice a very subtle mention of "next time we hang out". But there
was no attempt to confirm it. In fact, you're so casual and
confident that there will in fact be a "next time" that she'll feel
even more attraction towards you.
Here's another example.
"So you've never tried clay pigeon shooting? It's so much fun,
I'll have to take you sometime. Have you ever tried to shoot a
gun, period?"
Notice how casual you are when you say this. There's a confident
assumption that you're going to take her to do something, then you
move right on to ask her a question.
"You like Dazed and Confused too? I thought I was the only one!
Ok, we totally need to do a movie marathon. What are some of your
other favorite movies?"
Notice again, you're FLIRTING with the future. Touch and go. A
casual suggestion to do a movie marathon then right back into
another question.
When it comes to turning a girl into your girlfriend, this is one
of the most powerful and attractive things you can do.
Why?
Well, it forces you to look for commonalities with the girl, and
also talk about things that you're into, so that's a great start.
Then, it subtly demonstrates that you're confident in the fact that
you can see her again--if you want to. Believe me, women notice this.
And most importantly, it creates so many "future memories" of stuff
that the two of you are going to do together.
Her brain fills up with images of having an awesome time with you,
doing all sorts of fun stuff. She knows it's going to be fun
because you always live in the moment when you're with her.
And because you're not needy or trying to "overconfirm" your plans,
she wonders if you even mean all of this stuff, which makes her
wonder if you really like her.
At that point the tables are turned and SHE'S the one who's going
to try to lock YOU down.
By the time I get to a second date with a girl, we usually have a
list twenty items long of stuff that I'd casually suggested we do
together.
And as long as I'm having fun with her and she's having fun with
me, I know we're going to keep spending time together.
When you "live in the moment, flirt with the future" you are going
to have such a huge advantage over other guys, even if they've got
money, looks or a chiseled body.
It's truly the quickest shortcut to her heart, and getting her to
think of you as a boyfriend.
It hasn't been easy to figure this stuff out, but once I cracked
the code, dating become fun and getting a girlfriend became easy.
If you're a single guy who's struggling with girls the way I used
to, then I know your frustration and I can't wait to give you
everything you need to get this problem handled:
The Girlfriend Activation System
Rock and Roll,
Christian
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I've got to say, out of all of the programs I've ever reviewed
and/or told you about, I don't think I've received better feedback
than I have on Christian's Girlfriend Activation System.
If you haven't gotten in on this yet--or are on the fence about it--I
just got an email from Christian that he's giving away a TON of new
stuff at absolutely ZERO cost for anyone who buys the course.
I'm just going to copy and paste what he listed for me:
1) The Model Challenge Screen - Normally sold for $97
2) 7 Commandments of Dating 9's and 10's - Normally sold for $97
3) Rapport Done Right - Normally sold for $197
4) Complete Confidence - Normally sold for $497 (this is MASSIVE)
5) More surprise bonuses worth *hundreds* of dollars.
If you're getting this email, then there are still some copies left
at the reduced price before this program goes "mainstream" at the
end of the month.
That's when Christian's going to remove the bonuses and raise the
price considerably.
He's been getting a lot of media attention for this and it's only
going to get more and more popular, so you've really got to hop on
this now before it's genuinely too late:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/gfas
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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