[X&Y] How To Plan A First Date That Will Blow Her Away
Published: Wed, 08/27/14
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IN THIS EDITION: What if you could get inside a woman's head and
know how to plan a perfect first date with her...as if you read
her mind? Well, you can do exactly that...
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ALL THE RIGHT MOVES
It was a few years ago now that I heard Rob Brinded for the first
time on a David DeAngelo interview.
To be completely honest, I had no idea what to think. He was
saying some of the WEIRDEST things ever.
Apparently, he had been working as the athletic trainer for the
world famous Chelsea premier league British football club, his
specialty being MOVEMENT.
That's right. He has this rare and interesting gift of being able
to look at a guy and tell EXACTLY why he is affected by a certain
recurring injury and/or how he might be able to play his sport
better...just by making adjustments to how he MOVES.
Well, Rob's unique skills are equally, if not even MORE effective
at helping you become more attractive to women.
I'm sure you've long since noticed that what really catches your
eye about a woman is HOW SHE MOVES. There's a certain slinky,
feminine, graceful even FELINE characteristic to the women who
really turns our head, right?
Well guess what? The allure generated by movement is NOT
gender-specific.
In fact, Rob has a study that shows that women are EVEN MORE tuned
in to how a man moves than we've ever imagined...probably even more
than WE as guys are when we notice women.
So what am I saying here? Simply put, if how you carry yourself,
how you gesture when you speak and especially how you WALK aren't
attractive to women, YOU won't be attractive to women.
And on the other hand, if you've got all of that in your favor
you're virtually UNSTOPPABLE when it comes to creating attraction.
Sound crazy? Well it's not only true, but Rob explains a bit more
about it all in a video right here:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/rob
I have to warn you. This goes WAY BEYOND the same old "body
language" tips you've heard a thousand times.
Like I said, what Rob teaches is flat-out bizarre. So when you
check it out, be sure to keep a bit of an open mind. Doing so
will pay BIG dividends, I promise you:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/rob
Eventually I had the chance to actually meet and hang out with Rob
at the Summit conference in Oslo where we both were speakers. As
it turns out, he's a perfectly "normal" guy. But man, those ideas
of his...
In case you're wondering, YES...Rob has a full-on home study course
on how to be the kind of man women notice immediately, and it's
stacked with more value than I've seen in any other course in a
long time.
I'd say give it a very close look while you're visiting Rob's page:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/rob
The message is definitely LOUD AND CLEAR to me that you are
looking for new and unique advantages when it comes to attracting
women.
That's precisely what Rob has.
There's NOBODY else out there teaching this stuff. You've just
left the "rehashed pickup advice" zone for sure.
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HOW TO PLAN A FIRST DATE THAT WILL BLOW HER AWAY
As you know by now, as goes my e-mail box, so goes this newsletter.
And lately, as it turns out, I've been getting an encouraging
number of messages from guys who have begun to succeed at getting
women's numbers.
Others have reported that they're writing e-mails to women online
that are starting to get the desired results.
And, of course, what follows logically from all of that is FIRST
DATES...or "first meetings", as I'd prefer to call them.
Labeling the act of hanging out with a woman for the first time a
"date" tends to turn the event into a real "pressure cooker", so
the first step when planning to meet a woman for the first time is
to keep things casual.
The central point of such a meeting is to evaluate whether the two
of you even get along and are attracted to each other--especially
if you're meeting someone you've been talking to online.
But that doesn't stop us as guys from trying to impress a woman on
a first date, does it?
For the record, I remain convinced that "trying to impress a woman"
in it's most baseline form is NOT a good idea. The keyword being
"trying". When a woman senses you are overtly attempting to amaze
her, you've already lost half the battle.
Trying too hard = needy and desperate. That's all there is to it.
But here's the part that gets lost in translation.
You...um...kind of DO want her to be impressed with you, don't you?
Darn skippy.
If she isn't, then you're going nowhere. Fast.
And that's the part that I'm getting asked about a lot lately by
guys who are starting to get the opportunities with women they've
always wanted.
What in the world do you DO on a "first meeting"?
And on top of that, how exactly is a self-respecting guy supposed
to "impress her" WITHOUT TRYING to "impress her"?
In a sense, it's indeed kind of like the whole concept of being
cool. The more effortless it is, the more likely it is to succeed.
Heretofore, most of what you have read out there has likely either
been about how to be a "natural" (while assuming such on your part),
or rather how to Frankenstein a bunch of steps together to help
you REPLICATE being "natural".
Well, here's a novel concept: How about fine-tuning what may
already be a part of your EXISTING SKILLSET or EXISTING PERSONA so
as to be better with women?
In other words, what about considering attraction as a DYNAMIC
SKILLSET that can actually be improved upon bit by bit?
There are about a thousand ways to improve your chances when
meeting a woman for the first time. Let me be clear about that.
But given the constraints of a weekly newsletter, today I'm going
to introduce to you a particularly powerful one I'll call "Mind
Triggering".
That term probably isn't original to me by any stretch, but it
sounds good and describes what I've got in mind perfectly. So I'm
going with it.
Here's how it goes.
From now on, EVERY TIME you are out and around in your metro area,
start actively observing your surroundings in the CONTEXT of
planning first meetings.
All too often we blindly go from point "A" to point "B" without
really looking around. Even when out socially or in some other
"relaxed" setting, we tend to absorb ourselves in our immediate
surroundings rather than noting at a deeper level what it around
us.
Chalk it up to being over stimulated or too busy as a society, but
I've noticed that there can be the most amazing sunset of all time
unfolding before our collective eyes, and almost nobody around
stops to take notice.
So my bet is almost none of us as guys proactively scan our
landscape for great places to take women. Not just restaurants
or clubs, mind you, but ANYWHERE and EVERYWHERE.
From now on, start doing that.
But that's the easy part, of course. That's a "no brainer".
Here's the mindset that takes that simple exercise to a WHOLE NEW
LEVEL.
Whenever you spot a cool place, consider WHAT KIND of woman would
love it.
And what kind of woman would be AMAZED that you thought to take her
there?
Start thinking like this, and before you know it (perhaps less than
a week, even) you'll have a serious list of potential places to
take women on "first meetings"...and furthermore, you'll know WHY
they're strategic.
Get out your smartphone (or a friggin' pen and paper) and make a
REAL, ACTUAL list if you need to in order to commit the various
options to memory.
Then comes the magical part.
When you get a woman's number or start talking to someone online,
do another obvious but often-overlooked thing and GET HER TALKING.
Ask her questions about what she's into. What her dreams are.
What her favorite things are.
You know, what REALLY EXCITES her.
If you've done the first steps I've shared with you above
effectively, what she tells you will start TRIGGERING certain spots
you've taken note of in your mind.
LISTEN and therefore intuit the best dating venues/activities based
on what you've heard.
THEN...when the time comes to suggest that the two of you hang out
together, your plan will be--as if by magic--EXACTLY what will amaze
her most.
There will be no planting her in your passenger seat and asking her
"what she wants to do". No chest pounding about your cars, boats,
etc. will be necessary (as if...).
Any drama with regard to "trying to impress" her will be eliminated.
Instead, having heard that the greatest trip she ever went on was
to Greece back in college...you'll take her to that cool (but still
inexpensive) Greek restaurant for lunch.
Or, having heard she was all-state choir in high school you'll
therefore hit the coolest karaoke bar in town.
OR, having figured out she's a "wellspring of useless information"
you'll challenge her to a game of electronic trivia at a bar where
you know they've got it (which is a total blast, by the way).
And had she been interested in jazz, tango dancing, Brazil, hookah,
etc. you would have known where to take her also.
If she played soccer in high school, craved a perfect Long Island
Iced Tea and/or dug rock climbing you would have known how to
execute the plan.
Get this right and expect mellifluous and/or downright feline
utterances from her to the effect of, "this night was purrrrfect",
"it's like you read my mind", or my personal yardstick by which all
positive impressions are measured: "you're AMAZING."
And once you've got that handled, you can actually relax--once and
for all--and get down to assessing the most important question
surrounding your meeting together: Does SHE impress YOU?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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