[X&Y] What To Do When Your Buddies Hit On Your Girlfriend
Published: Tue, 08/19/14
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IN THIS EDITION: You roll your eyes and can't help but think,
"here we go again..." One of your acquaintances is trying to make
time with your girlfriend again...and attempting to make you look
bad in the process. Geez...
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IS THE WOMAN YOU'RE SEEING ABOUT TO LEAVE YOU (OR HAS SHE ALREADY?)
In today's newsletter I'm going to talk about what to do when
someone you know tries to get your girlfriend to turn her attention
elsewhere.
But wait a minute...what if it looks like you may REALLY be losing
her, for whatever reason?
Or worse, what if she's ALREADY LEFT?
What you're about to see is the single best plan I've ever seen for
re-igniting attraction in women who may seem to be losing it for you:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/experts
Basically, you'll figure out VERY quickly (like I did) that what
these guys have figured out makes every other "Ex-Back" product
look more like an "Ex-Lax" product.
Seriously, what makes the difference here is how these guys focus
on actually rebuilding attraction in a woman who is growing
disinterested...and that's FAR more powerful than the usual
collection of "get your ex-back" tricks you've seen elsewhere:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/experts
This system is SO powerful, in fact, that it even works BEFORE she
actually breaks up with you--even if you just suspect the axe is
about to fall. That's saying something.
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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR BUDDIES HIT ON YOUR GIRLFRIEND
Here's a question I get asked all the time:
"Scot, man...what if if one of your supposed 'buddies' decides he
wants to try to steal your girlfriend from you?"
That's a question worthy of solid discussion. After all, it can
really be a bummer when dudes you hang out with feel like they need
to compete with you for your own girlfriend's affections.
As fortune would have it, I had actually gotten an interesting
e-mail from a woman several days ago.
This was shortly after I wrote to you about guys who literally step
in between you and a woman you're talking to and start talking to
her themselves.
I knew her message would make a good newsletter someday, and the
timing is now perfect because in it she brings up exactly what you
guys are now asking about. Give it a read...
Hi Scot,
It's funny you should write on this topic, because something along
these lines happened to me the other day with a guy I met recently.
I joined him and some of his friends at a BBQ, and this was our
first time hanging out.
The guy split his time between me and his friends, and encouraged
me do the same, while ensuring I had what I needed and (wine,
water) and was comfortable (knew where the bathroom was, etc).
One of his friends was flirting with me and I enjoyed his company
and some gentle flirting back, but was always careful to focus on
the guy I'd come to meet when we were in proximity.
The other guy tried to subtly discredit his friend and to promote
himself, and it was clear he was competing for me.
The guy I'd come to see didn't rise to the bait, and even gave me
the choice of staying with his friends when he had to leave early
because he was working in the morning.
Needless to say the other guy encouraged me to stay, but I left
with the guy I'd come to see, and am very glad I did.
He showed confidence and character, always leaving the choice to
me, and ignoring the other guy's provocations. It made a VERY good
impression on me. Your advice to the guys was great!
Yes, this is how most "normal" women would handle a similar
situation AND feel about it afterwards, particularly when they're
genuinely attracted to the guy they're with.
Contrary to popular PUA belief, women aren't automatons programmed
to latch on to the latest guy to come on to them. They usually
aren't anywhere near that flaky (and if they are, stay away from
them anyway).
And to that end, just look at the woman's reaction to both guys
involved.
You might be a bit perturbed that she "flirted back" with the guy's
friend a bit, but ultimately you've got to give props to the fact
that he got NOWHERE with her.
The bottom line is that any guy in your social circle who tries to
put the moves on your girlfriend in hopes of perhaps "stealing" her
from you is going to come off as immature, at best, and flat-out
pathetic at worst.
Last I checked, neither immaturity nor being pathetic were
attractive to women.
And if the dude is trying to make YOU look bad in order to make
himself look better? Well, if that's the case then he's going to
look TWICE as ridiculous.
Like the real man who the woman who wrote me came to the party with
AND left with, you've got to TRUST the social process in a scenario
like that. There's no reason to get antsy about what's going on.
In fact, any man who seeks to socially undermine your existing
relationship with a woman may as well scream out, "I'm jealous of
my friend because he's more successful with women than I'll ever
be."
So all you'd accomplish by doing anything other than relaxing in
the confidence that the woman you came with is going to be leaving
with you also would simply drop you to the other guy's level of
insecurity.
Realize he's trying to get inside YOUR head as much as the woman's
and remain unflappable.
Actually, if you can truly internalize that mindset you might even
find it in your heart to forgive offending acquaintances for their
masculine weakness--even if you hold their "friendship" at arm's
length.
No matter what, however, I can promise things will turn out just
fine for you.
In fact, if you've succeeded at making a woman particularly crazy
about you such weird situations can become a legitimate source of
rich entertainment and personal gratification.
I remember one time I brought a particularly sexy redhead I'd begun
dating with me to a motocross race. To put it lightly, she
generated quite a bit of attention at a "sausage fest" like that.
One of my smart-assed acquaintances sidled up to her during one of
my races and said, "So...what in the world does a woman like you see
in a guy like Scot, anyway?"
Without diverting her attention from cheering for me, she
matter-of-factly replied, "Oh, he's amazing in bed."
Redhead was more than excited to recount the event to me first-hand
after I returned to the pit area. She was actually proud of
herself for making me look good in front of my "friend" who had
apparently hoped otherwise.
Let's hear it for women like that.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
IN THIS EDITION: You roll your eyes and can't help but think,
"here we go again..." One of your acquaintances is trying to make
time with your girlfriend again...and attempting to make you look
bad in the process. Geez...
=====
IS THE WOMAN YOU'RE SEEING ABOUT TO LEAVE YOU (OR HAS SHE ALREADY?)
In today's newsletter I'm going to talk about what to do when
someone you know tries to get your girlfriend to turn her attention
elsewhere.
But wait a minute...what if it looks like you may REALLY be losing
her, for whatever reason?
Or worse, what if she's ALREADY LEFT?
What you're about to see is the single best plan I've ever seen for
re-igniting attraction in women who may seem to be losing it for you:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/experts
Basically, you'll figure out VERY quickly (like I did) that what
these guys have figured out makes every other "Ex-Back" product
look more like an "Ex-Lax" product.
Seriously, what makes the difference here is how these guys focus
on actually rebuilding attraction in a woman who is growing
disinterested...and that's FAR more powerful than the usual
collection of "get your ex-back" tricks you've seen elsewhere:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/experts
This system is SO powerful, in fact, that it even works BEFORE she
actually breaks up with you--even if you just suspect the axe is
about to fall. That's saying something.
=====
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR BUDDIES HIT ON YOUR GIRLFRIEND
Here's a question I get asked all the time:
"Scot, man...what if if one of your supposed 'buddies' decides he
wants to try to steal your girlfriend from you?"
That's a question worthy of solid discussion. After all, it can
really be a bummer when dudes you hang out with feel like they need
to compete with you for your own girlfriend's affections.
As fortune would have it, I had actually gotten an interesting
e-mail from a woman several days ago.
This was shortly after I wrote to you about guys who literally step
in between you and a woman you're talking to and start talking to
her themselves.
I knew her message would make a good newsletter someday, and the
timing is now perfect because in it she brings up exactly what you
guys are now asking about. Give it a read...
Hi Scot,
It's funny you should write on this topic, because something along
these lines happened to me the other day with a guy I met recently.
I joined him and some of his friends at a BBQ, and this was our
first time hanging out.
The guy split his time between me and his friends, and encouraged
me do the same, while ensuring I had what I needed and (wine,
water) and was comfortable (knew where the bathroom was, etc).
One of his friends was flirting with me and I enjoyed his company
and some gentle flirting back, but was always careful to focus on
the guy I'd come to meet when we were in proximity.
The other guy tried to subtly discredit his friend and to promote
himself, and it was clear he was competing for me.
The guy I'd come to see didn't rise to the bait, and even gave me
the choice of staying with his friends when he had to leave early
because he was working in the morning.
Needless to say the other guy encouraged me to stay, but I left
with the guy I'd come to see, and am very glad I did.
He showed confidence and character, always leaving the choice to
me, and ignoring the other guy's provocations. It made a VERY good
impression on me. Your advice to the guys was great!
Yes, this is how most "normal" women would handle a similar
situation AND feel about it afterwards, particularly when they're
genuinely attracted to the guy they're with.
Contrary to popular PUA belief, women aren't automatons programmed
to latch on to the latest guy to come on to them. They usually
aren't anywhere near that flaky (and if they are, stay away from
them anyway).
And to that end, just look at the woman's reaction to both guys
involved.
You might be a bit perturbed that she "flirted back" with the guy's
friend a bit, but ultimately you've got to give props to the fact
that he got NOWHERE with her.
The bottom line is that any guy in your social circle who tries to
put the moves on your girlfriend in hopes of perhaps "stealing" her
from you is going to come off as immature, at best, and flat-out
pathetic at worst.
Last I checked, neither immaturity nor being pathetic were
attractive to women.
And if the dude is trying to make YOU look bad in order to make
himself look better? Well, if that's the case then he's going to
look TWICE as ridiculous.
Like the real man who the woman who wrote me came to the party with
AND left with, you've got to TRUST the social process in a scenario
like that. There's no reason to get antsy about what's going on.
In fact, any man who seeks to socially undermine your existing
relationship with a woman may as well scream out, "I'm jealous of
my friend because he's more successful with women than I'll ever
be."
So all you'd accomplish by doing anything other than relaxing in
the confidence that the woman you came with is going to be leaving
with you also would simply drop you to the other guy's level of
insecurity.
Realize he's trying to get inside YOUR head as much as the woman's
and remain unflappable.
Actually, if you can truly internalize that mindset you might even
find it in your heart to forgive offending acquaintances for their
masculine weakness--even if you hold their "friendship" at arm's
length.
No matter what, however, I can promise things will turn out just
fine for you.
In fact, if you've succeeded at making a woman particularly crazy
about you such weird situations can become a legitimate source of
rich entertainment and personal gratification.
I remember one time I brought a particularly sexy redhead I'd begun
dating with me to a motocross race. To put it lightly, she
generated quite a bit of attention at a "sausage fest" like that.
One of my smart-assed acquaintances sidled up to her during one of
my races and said, "So...what in the world does a woman like you see
in a guy like Scot, anyway?"
Without diverting her attention from cheering for me, she
matter-of-factly replied, "Oh, he's amazing in bed."
Redhead was more than excited to recount the event to me first-hand
after I returned to the pit area. She was actually proud of
herself for making me look good in front of my "friend" who had
apparently hoped otherwise.
Let's hear it for women like that.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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