[X&Y] Are You Paying Too Much For Dates? (Hint: ANYTHING Is Too Much)
Published: Mon, 09/15/14
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You get to the end of the dinner date, and the
waiter hands you the bill. Now what? Should you pay the bill,split it in half, or what? Check out my surprising answer below...
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MEETING WOMEN BY ACCIDENT?
Now that I've got your attention, I'm sure you're asking yourself
if what's in that subject line above is REALLY possible.
You bet it is.
I mean, good things tend to happen when you LEAST expect it, right?
That's one of the stranger truths in this life.
Meanwhile, if you get yourself all worked up to INTENTIONALLY go
out and try to meet women, the potential for "over analysis" and
negative visualization skyrockets, doesn't it?
That stuff just KILLS your chances...yet it actually takes MORE TIME
and MORE EFFORT than going about things the right way.
The irony!
It all makes sense, though. When you SEE a woman you like you
should MEET her. BAM...in an INSTANT. It's should be as if you're
on auto-pilot.
Meet Lance Mason. He is a stone-cold ninja at this sort of thing.
Better yet, he can SHOW YOU how to master "instant attraction"
skills yourself:
Hey...have you ever, ever watched a GOLDEN opportunity with a woman
who took your breath away disappear into thin air just because you
hesitated?
If so, then this is the cure you've been looking for:
Believe me, you are NOT alone. Not by any stretch.
There's a reason why Instant Attraction is one of Pickup 101's
hottest programs. It's exactly what the doctor ordered, and it
straight-up WORKS.
And now, let's hear from Kemal, who's got a REAL problem he needs
a solution to...
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ARE YOU PAYING TOO MUCH FOR DATES?
I just got the following message from a guy last night, and I
wanted to share it with you:
How's it going, Scot:
Tell you what - English is not my native tongue still I'll try to
get myself across.
Who pays??? I got it firmly fixed in my cerebral cortex that if you
buy her drinks/meals your dating game is lost. So the waiter hands
us two the bill. I leave a pause. The silence becomes excruciating.
What happens next - she either coughs up her share with a look of
defiance as though saying "you [honkin'] cheapskate" or, with even
more defiance, out loud, "You're a man so you must pay!". In both
cases, you're the loser because the rapport is crushed to the ground.
There is no second date afterwards. How do I handle that?
Yours,
Kemal
My answer to Kemal was very simple: Whoever INVITES pays.
Since you're a man in control of his reality, that means you should
definitely take the bull by the horns and be the one who MAKES PLANS
with a woman.
I mean, think about it. This is just human nature at work.
If someone were to invite you somewhere cool, you'd probably go.
Right? But what if that same friend said at the end of the whole
experience, "Hey man, go ahead and pick up the tab for this one...I
know you won't mind."
You probably wouldn't hang out with him much anymore, would you? I
mean some friend, right?
Look, I get it. I understand that we've all been taught that
throwing a lot of money at women we barely know will basically cause
her to lose respect for you and think of you as a "walking ATM
machine".
And make no mistake about it, that's VERY true.
So it's NO WONDER that Kemal is writing me. What a mess, right?
Well, fortunately there's a VERY SIMPLE, UNCOMPLICATED solution to
this problem:
Stop taking women out on expensive dates, especially "dinner dates".
Unfortunately, "dinner and a movie" is pretty much embedded in our
conscience as the default plan for taking a woman out.
But what if I told you there was a BETTER WAY?
What if you could create WAY, WAY more attraction...all the while
doing something with a woman that you both actually ENJOY?
And what if your new way of planning time with women caused THEM to
want to get frisky with you FIRST?
And best of all, what if you could get all of that done while
spending FAR less money...maybe even NONE AT ALL?
Here's what you do. Simply plan a get-together where you and her
go somewhere and simply get to know each other?
It could be a park. It could be downtown in the city. It could
be ANYWHERE, really.
If you feel like you've succeeded at causing her to feel safe with
you, take her somewhere where you can throw a blanket down and just
stare at the stars.
Ask her about her dreams. If the opportunity comes up to share a
funny story or a joke...do so.
Remember always. You do NOT "impress" a woman by spending money on
her and/or piling on the "pressure".
If a woman is truly into YOU, all she really want's is to explore
your "connection" together.
By simply focusing on each other somewhere you can be alone, you
really heighten a woman's SENSUALITY. She's going to be EXCITED to
be interacting with you.
From there you can do thinks like look into her eyes and smile,
whisper in her ear, thumb wrestle...whatever.
I really hope that doesn't sound "lame" to you. It's not "macho"
by any stretch, but representing to a woman what she wants in a man
is MASCULINE by her standard of measurement.
She feels safe with you. You're confidently leading. You show
character by not being opportunistic in your desire to get your
hands all over her.
In short...you're a "Big Four" man.
And make no mistake about it: When you lead with what inspires
SENSUALITY in her, it comes back to you as SEXUALITY.
You can throw "sexual inuendoes" and "escalating kino" out the
window. Try the simple steps I'm suggesting and she's likely to
ask you, "How long are you going to make me wait?"
And again...you can get the job done with little ore even NO MONEY
spent whatsoever.
Have a great Sunday, gentlemen. If you're in the US, you've gotta
love the start of the new NFL season. May your team crush it today.
...And may YOU stop spending so much on dates.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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