[X&Y] Are You Too "Safe"?
Published: Tue, 10/07/14
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IN THIS EDITION: It's true that causing a woman to feel comfortable
and secure in your presence is crucial to success. But can you be
TOO "safe"?
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Sometimes the road to getting better with women can seem REALLY long.
And if you haven't been seeing the success you want lately, that can
be discouraging.
Well, this guy has somehow brought together everything you need to
turn things around quickly:
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I have to warn you, what you're about to see is one of the most
popular things going right now...even in it's "basic" form.
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if you get my drift...
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ARE YOU TOO "SAFE"?
One of the "Big Four" factors that really matter to high quality
women is what I refer to as "the ability to inspire confidence".
Essentially, this means that assuming you can create attraction
with a masculine, confident presence the next step is to make a
woman feel safe and secure in your presence.
When a woman who is already attracted to you begins to trust you,
then you can begin to establish an ongoing relationship on solid
ground.
When her fear goes away, then she feels free to act on her feminine
attraction to you.
Conversely, if she senses she's potentially in any kind of physical
danger when you're around, gets a negative vibe from you or is
"creeped out" in any way you'll get NOWHERE with her.
And that's a fact.
So yes, you've got to give a woman a sense of SECURITY in your
presence. She has to know that you represent protection and
goodwill rather than the opposite.
But there's a plot complication.
Providing security to a woman (or inspiring confidence, if you
will) is VERY DIFFERENT than being "safe".
Understanding this is an extraordinarily important component to your
overall success with women, yet I can't recall ever seeing the topic
discussed elsewhere.
Here's what I mean.
A woman doesn't want to feel as if she is physically endangered at
any time, but she DOES crave a man who can bring a sense of
adventure and excitement to her life. Without the latter, she's
bored to tears.
Similarly, she doesn't want to be "controlled" in a manipulative
manner, but she DOES want a man who is an assertive leader. And
without the latter, she'll lose respect for you.
Additionally, you can't become utterly predictable, stuck in a
rut of doing the same things over and over again. Yet, you most
certainly can't be irrationally compulsive either...that's just
scary.
Yes, you've got to know how to differentiate all of this, which
isn't always so easy to do.
As guys, the vast majority of us miss the mark insofar as how
we represent ourselves to women.
For example, we may fail to recognize that women are generally
compelled to consider their personal safety when on a date with
a man, whereas we seldom are concerned with such.
It's not that we're violent "bad guys", it's simply a matter of
fact that most men can overpower most women. Women are naturally
very aware of this.
So the more we can do to take that preoccupation off the table for
them, the better. But some guys just can't connect the dots, and
blindly wonder why women keep pulling a disappearing act on them
sooner than later.
In some cases, it's simply because we didn't make her feel secure
in our presence.
For example, it's a good idea not to crowd a woman's space when you
first meet her. Avoid jokes about killing people. Don't gesture
with your hands full while cleaning loaded firearms at the dining
room table. Stuff like that.
Fair enough.
But most guys, I'd contend, are actually on the OPPOSITE side of
the spectrum.
WE'RE TOO "SAFE".
We avoid disagreeing with her opinions. We dare not even try so
much as to hold her hand even when she's laughing, playfully
hitting us on the shoulder and staring at our lips in anticipation.
And, ironically, it's precisely because we're hypersensitive to
"scaring women" that we end up this way. We don't want to "impose
on them", and we chalk up our Failure To Deploy as "being a
gentlemen".
Meanwhile, there's a woman somewhere who wanted to be kissed and
went home feeling frustrated or even rejected.
Worse, because we rarely leave the basement ourselves once we come
home from our jobs at Cubicle City, the most "adventurous" activity
we can come up with when we're with her is the same trip to Chili's
or Applebee's followed by crashing on the couch watching re-runs...
again.
Taking the "safe" option because it worked last time is not adding
value to a woman's self-perceived boring life, is it?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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IN THIS EDITION: It's true that causing a woman to feel comfortable
and secure in your presence is crucial to success. But can you be
TOO "safe"?
=====
HOW TO BE THE BADASS WOMEN LOVE
Sometimes the road to getting better with women can seem REALLY long.
And if you haven't been seeing the success you want lately, that can
be discouraging.
Well, this guy has somehow brought together everything you need to
turn things around quickly:
Click Here
I have to warn you, what you're about to see is one of the most
popular things going right now...even in it's "basic" form.
Yet, I've twisted this guy's arm and cajoled him into offering
some extra killer bonuses exclusively for YOU as a subscriber
to this newsletter...but they'll only be available for the next
couple of days:
Click Here
Get the jump start you need for your dating life right now,
all with a straightforward approach. No "fish stories" here,
if you get my drift...
=====
ARE YOU TOO "SAFE"?
One of the "Big Four" factors that really matter to high quality
women is what I refer to as "the ability to inspire confidence".
Essentially, this means that assuming you can create attraction
with a masculine, confident presence the next step is to make a
woman feel safe and secure in your presence.
When a woman who is already attracted to you begins to trust you,
then you can begin to establish an ongoing relationship on solid
ground.
When her fear goes away, then she feels free to act on her feminine
attraction to you.
Conversely, if she senses she's potentially in any kind of physical
danger when you're around, gets a negative vibe from you or is
"creeped out" in any way you'll get NOWHERE with her.
And that's a fact.
So yes, you've got to give a woman a sense of SECURITY in your
presence. She has to know that you represent protection and
goodwill rather than the opposite.
But there's a plot complication.
Providing security to a woman (or inspiring confidence, if you
will) is VERY DIFFERENT than being "safe".
Understanding this is an extraordinarily important component to your
overall success with women, yet I can't recall ever seeing the topic
discussed elsewhere.
Here's what I mean.
A woman doesn't want to feel as if she is physically endangered at
any time, but she DOES crave a man who can bring a sense of
adventure and excitement to her life. Without the latter, she's
bored to tears.
Similarly, she doesn't want to be "controlled" in a manipulative
manner, but she DOES want a man who is an assertive leader. And
without the latter, she'll lose respect for you.
Additionally, you can't become utterly predictable, stuck in a
rut of doing the same things over and over again. Yet, you most
certainly can't be irrationally compulsive either...that's just
scary.
Yes, you've got to know how to differentiate all of this, which
isn't always so easy to do.
As guys, the vast majority of us miss the mark insofar as how
we represent ourselves to women.
For example, we may fail to recognize that women are generally
compelled to consider their personal safety when on a date with
a man, whereas we seldom are concerned with such.
It's not that we're violent "bad guys", it's simply a matter of
fact that most men can overpower most women. Women are naturally
very aware of this.
So the more we can do to take that preoccupation off the table for
them, the better. But some guys just can't connect the dots, and
blindly wonder why women keep pulling a disappearing act on them
sooner than later.
In some cases, it's simply because we didn't make her feel secure
in our presence.
For example, it's a good idea not to crowd a woman's space when you
first meet her. Avoid jokes about killing people. Don't gesture
with your hands full while cleaning loaded firearms at the dining
room table. Stuff like that.
Fair enough.
But most guys, I'd contend, are actually on the OPPOSITE side of
the spectrum.
WE'RE TOO "SAFE".
We avoid disagreeing with her opinions. We dare not even try so
much as to hold her hand even when she's laughing, playfully
hitting us on the shoulder and staring at our lips in anticipation.
And, ironically, it's precisely because we're hypersensitive to
"scaring women" that we end up this way. We don't want to "impose
on them", and we chalk up our Failure To Deploy as "being a
gentlemen".
Meanwhile, there's a woman somewhere who wanted to be kissed and
went home feeling frustrated or even rejected.
Worse, because we rarely leave the basement ourselves once we come
home from our jobs at Cubicle City, the most "adventurous" activity
we can come up with when we're with her is the same trip to Chili's
or Applebee's followed by crashing on the couch watching re-runs...
again.
Taking the "safe" option because it worked last time is not adding
value to a woman's self-perceived boring life, is it?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2014. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.