[X&Y] Why Most Men Disappoint Women (And It's Probably Not What You Think)
Published: Sun, 10/12/14
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IN THIS EDITION: I'm about to reveal to you the strangest irony
in the world when it comes to attraction. Get this one turned right-
side-up and you'll be WAY ahead...
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BECAUSE THE WRONG WOMAN IS WORSE THAN NO WOMAN AT ALL
Did that headline grab your attention? I sincerely hope it did.
Every single day I hear from guys who ended up with a woman
who literally ruined their lives...but hey, she looked really
sexy all the while.
The crazier part is I also hear from guys who are nothing short
of excited to follow in their footsteps. They've got their eye
on a woman who they ALREADY KNOW is no good for them, yet they're
mesmerized by how she looks.
Ultimately those guys will all have something in common: They'll
sincerely wish that they'd NEVER gotten tangled up with the
woman they ended up with.
And they'll wish they had been A LOT smarter about choosing a
woman who's not only beautiful and sexy but who also has the
rest of the "whole package working".
Fortunately for you, there's still time to get things right.
If you can see the mission-critical importance of what I'm
sharing with you here, then you should definitely also see this:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/sww
In this life, there really is no more important decision you'll
make than which woman to build a relationship with.
Your career success, overall happiness and even your health
depend on it.
Stop leaving the matter of what woman you're with to chance...
or worse, to desperation. Discover the disarmingly simple steps
to choosing more wisely than the vast majority of men ever do:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/sww
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WHY MOST MEN DISAPPOINT WOMEN (AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT)
More so than ever before, I'm convinced that thinking of women
as "enigmatic" or "unfathomble" is precisely what's KILLING our
chances for success with them the most.
And unfortunately, the issue is decidedly NOT gender-specific.
Women apparently have no idea what's going on inside our heads
either. I'm pretty sure most of them have been taught that we're
utterly impossible to comprehend.
But following up from yesterday's newsletter, the truth is that
we really are more alike than different.
If we'd just see the forest for the trees, we'd become A LOT better
at relating to women...practically overnight.
For example, were I to hand you and some chick a matching set of
winning lotto tickets, you'd both probably feel the same emotions.
If her dog and your dog both ran away (together?), you'd both be
bummed.
In terms of how we feel and even how we think, differences between
us aren't really gender-specific. Think about it... Personality
tests like the Myers-Briggs and so forth don't generally have pink
and blue versions, do they?
Really, the only place where real differences arise is when we
specifically deal with what's feminine vs. what's masculine.
Too bad that modern society is so busy trying to "blur the lines"
even in that area.
This, of course, means that we tend to have two "neuter" creatures
running around trying to sexually attract each other.
But that would be relatively easy to sort out, were things that
simple.
A lot of the core problems that guys have with women stem from
simply not knowing how to lead. The irony? That's exactly what
women tend to WANT--a MAN who takes the lead.
And what about women and their dating issues?
What if I told you that a massive percentage of e-mails we receive
from the women on Emily's list talk about problems closely centered
on a common thread of their own: They have trouble RESISTING a
man's BAD LEADERSHIP.
So, to summarize, on one hand what we've got going on here is
"failure to deploy" by many men out there.
They defer to women, supplicate to them, and walk on eggshells lest
they offend them by having any autonomous will of their own.
And in trying to "follow" women, they forfeit what is arguably
their strongest means of creating magnetic attraction: masculine
leadership.
Meanwhile, there are other guys out there who TRY to lead, but who
end up taking their women on one wild goose chase after another.
The crazy part?
Like I alluded to, women still try to follow the man's lead even
when it's ill-advised to do so.
We're talking two or three years of dating with nothing at all
going on. Night after night spent in a "rut" of doing the same
thing.
Yet the women stand by their man...wondering aloud why they're doing
so.
I even went on a first date one time with a woman who actually used
tag along to "keep her [ex-]husband company" when he drove back
and forth from Mexico to New York City trafficking guns and cocaine.
The verdict? Guys, as a man you realy ARE the CHOOSER. When you
CHASE, you disappoint.
The fact that plenty of women out there are even willing to follow
blatantly BAD leadership should speak volumes.
I have a theory as to why this all happens, though.
I think most of us as guys spend a lot of time in our own
heads...trying to reach out to women in order to get our wants
and needs met.
Isn't that what most pickup teaching is all about?
That's the easy, "no-brainer" path for sure.
But it's the guy who does the EXACT OPPOSITE who compels women as a
strong relationship manager.
He's the one who is REACHING INSIDE to make the changes necessary
to deserve what he wants, even as he seeks to learn how to meet a
woman's true needs by being the masculine, confident, confidence
inspiring man of character that women truly crave.
So could it be true in this post-modern culture that the new
guideline for success with women would be to do the EXACT OPPOSITE
of what seems correct on the surface these days...kind of like what
you do when driving in Mexico?
Perhaps the ultimate irony of all is that not too long ago none of
this was all that ironic. Men were men, and women were women.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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Did that headline grab your attention? I sincerely hope it did.
Every single day I hear from guys who ended up with a woman
who literally ruined their lives...but hey, she looked really
sexy all the while.
The crazier part is I also hear from guys who are nothing short
of excited to follow in their footsteps. They've got their eye
on a woman who they ALREADY KNOW is no good for them, yet they're
mesmerized by how she looks.
Ultimately those guys will all have something in common: They'll
sincerely wish that they'd NEVER gotten tangled up with the
woman they ended up with.
And they'll wish they had been A LOT smarter about choosing a
woman who's not only beautiful and sexy but who also has the
rest of the "whole package working".
Fortunately for you, there's still time to get things right.
If you can see the mission-critical importance of what I'm
sharing with you here, then you should definitely also see this:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/sww
In this life, there really is no more important decision you'll
make than which woman to build a relationship with.
Your career success, overall happiness and even your health
depend on it.
Stop leaving the matter of what woman you're with to chance...
or worse, to desperation. Discover the disarmingly simple steps
to choosing more wisely than the vast majority of men ever do:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/sww
=====
WHY MOST MEN DISAPPOINT WOMEN (AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT)
More so than ever before, I'm convinced that thinking of women
as "enigmatic" or "unfathomble" is precisely what's KILLING our
chances for success with them the most.
And unfortunately, the issue is decidedly NOT gender-specific.
Women apparently have no idea what's going on inside our heads
either. I'm pretty sure most of them have been taught that we're
utterly impossible to comprehend.
But following up from yesterday's newsletter, the truth is that
we really are more alike than different.
If we'd just see the forest for the trees, we'd become A LOT better
at relating to women...practically overnight.
For example, were I to hand you and some chick a matching set of
winning lotto tickets, you'd both probably feel the same emotions.
If her dog and your dog both ran away (together?), you'd both be
bummed.
In terms of how we feel and even how we think, differences between
us aren't really gender-specific. Think about it... Personality
tests like the Myers-Briggs and so forth don't generally have pink
and blue versions, do they?
Really, the only place where real differences arise is when we
specifically deal with what's feminine vs. what's masculine.
Too bad that modern society is so busy trying to "blur the lines"
even in that area.
This, of course, means that we tend to have two "neuter" creatures
running around trying to sexually attract each other.
But that would be relatively easy to sort out, were things that
simple.
A lot of the core problems that guys have with women stem from
simply not knowing how to lead. The irony? That's exactly what
women tend to WANT--a MAN who takes the lead.
And what about women and their dating issues?
What if I told you that a massive percentage of e-mails we receive
from the women on Emily's list talk about problems closely centered
on a common thread of their own: They have trouble RESISTING a
man's BAD LEADERSHIP.
So, to summarize, on one hand what we've got going on here is
"failure to deploy" by many men out there.
They defer to women, supplicate to them, and walk on eggshells lest
they offend them by having any autonomous will of their own.
And in trying to "follow" women, they forfeit what is arguably
their strongest means of creating magnetic attraction: masculine
leadership.
Meanwhile, there are other guys out there who TRY to lead, but who
end up taking their women on one wild goose chase after another.
The crazy part?
Like I alluded to, women still try to follow the man's lead even
when it's ill-advised to do so.
We're talking two or three years of dating with nothing at all
going on. Night after night spent in a "rut" of doing the same
thing.
Yet the women stand by their man...wondering aloud why they're doing
so.
I even went on a first date one time with a woman who actually used
tag along to "keep her [ex-]husband company" when he drove back
and forth from Mexico to New York City trafficking guns and cocaine.
The verdict? Guys, as a man you realy ARE the CHOOSER. When you
CHASE, you disappoint.
The fact that plenty of women out there are even willing to follow
blatantly BAD leadership should speak volumes.
I have a theory as to why this all happens, though.
I think most of us as guys spend a lot of time in our own
heads...trying to reach out to women in order to get our wants
and needs met.
Isn't that what most pickup teaching is all about?
That's the easy, "no-brainer" path for sure.
But it's the guy who does the EXACT OPPOSITE who compels women as a
strong relationship manager.
He's the one who is REACHING INSIDE to make the changes necessary
to deserve what he wants, even as he seeks to learn how to meet a
woman's true needs by being the masculine, confident, confidence
inspiring man of character that women truly crave.
So could it be true in this post-modern culture that the new
guideline for success with women would be to do the EXACT OPPOSITE
of what seems correct on the surface these days...kind of like what
you do when driving in Mexico?
Perhaps the ultimate irony of all is that not too long ago none of
this was all that ironic. Men were men, and women were women.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2014. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.