[X&Y] What To Do If You Doubt Women Like You
Published: Sun, 11/23/14
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WHAT'S INSIDE: What's driving your limiting beliefs? For many
guys, somebody else might actually be at the wheel...
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THIS IS URGENT AND IMPORTANT (AND I DON'T OVERUSE THAT PHRASE)
As some of you who do 1-on-1 coaching with me already know, I've
recently formulated an all-new way of writing online dating
profiles.
It's called the "Projection Profile", and it's so counter-intuitive
that NOBODY else has thought to even try it, let alone teach it.
But as it turns out, it's OVERWHELMINGLY effective.
Here are just a few sample messages:
"That was the best, hands down, profile that I have ever read. If
it's all sincerely meant...it's breathtaking."
"Great profile! It gave me goosebumps!"
"The way with which you describe your reaction to 'her', by far, is
one of the most beautiful expressions I have read. Your reflection
is marked by her actions, which are evident in what you see.....
Felt a sense of breathlessness......"
"Hi. I hope you are great! Well, I hate to toot my own horn but
your profile describes me to a T. :-) Seriously, that is the type
of lady I am and the partner I wish to find."
In case you haven't added it all up, giving women goosebumps and
taking their breath away generally leads to meeting them in
person...with them already ADORING you.
Let's just say that making countless women feel that instant,
visceral rush of positive female energy--and immediately associating
it with YOU--is a GREAT goal to set when posting your profile online.
And if you're a Tinder user, this is MONEY.
Perhaps the only "downside", if you can call it that, is your
profile might be SO good that women wonder if you can possibly be
that amazing:
"Your profile is very creative. Did you write it yourself?"
Right now fewer than ONE DOZEN men on the planet have beta tested
this revolutionary (and did I mention EASY?) strategy.
I heard from one about an hour ago who is 57 and just got a VERY
attractive 32-year-old woman's phone number.
Once this strategy is made available to the masses next year, it's
going to take the online dating world by STORM...transforming
several thousand more men's online dating results OVERNIGHT.
But as you know, you can be among the first guys in the world to
get a head start on this if you get in on The Big 4 Man Challenge,
where I'll be teaching the "Projection Profile" for the first time
ever:
http://www.big4man.com/challenge
Having seen the sheer power of this revolutionary strategy, I've
decided to open up just a few more spots. I want more of you to
be able to take advantage of this sooner than later:
http://www.big4man.com/challenge
Obviously, there is MUCH, MUCH more I'm going to reveal for the
VERY FIRST TIME during The Big 4 Man Challenge.
For example, you'll be using "The Half-Step" EVERY time you meet a
woman from now on...all because it GETS NUMBERS like no shopworn
pickup tactic ever has, or ever will. This has been demonstrated
repeatedly in-field.
You'll find all the important details here:
http://www.big4man.com/challenge
This is the official LAST CALL for the first-ever group coaching
event in the history of X & Y Communications.
If you know anything about me by now, I make it a point to
OVERDELIVER for you...especially when doing something new.
So yes, that one-time low cost for The Big 4 Man Challenge that
you'll see on the order page includes EVERYTHING.
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WHAT TO DO IF YOU DOUBT WOMEN LIKE YOU
All of us are inspired when we hear stories of BELIEF in the face
of DOUBT. Movies like "The Pursuit Of Happyness", "Rudy" and
"Hoosiers" all come to mind.
The characters in each respective flick are repeatedly told that
they would or even SHOULD fail, yet their sheer will and
determination carries them to wildly successful victory against
all odds.
And it's human nature for us to LOVE these movies.
So why, then, is it also human nature for us to do the EXACT
OPPOSITE when is comes to our dating lives?
Why do we so often DOUBT in the face of BELIEF when it comes to
approaching the opposite sex?
I mean, realistically speaking, the symptoms of this disorder
often extend into first dates, second dates and possibly even
into 50 year marriages.
Here's a case in point.
This week I was engaged in a discussion about online dating
involving the finer points of sending emails to women.
While common wisdom suggests that a first email that goes
unanswered signals disinterest, I happen to believe that the
very most popular women online are often so inundated with
messages that they will respond ONLY to second attempts at
contact.
Such women are wise to "cut/paste" first emails from lazy,
unimaginative men and therefore want to know who is REALLY
interested enough to make a real effort.
While "always" is a precarious term to use when dealing with
real people, my personal field testing has shown that women
will respond to a well-placed and effectively written second
email well over 50% of the time.
My friend vehemently disagreed and said he refuses to send second
emails to women. After all, he's got "proof" it doesn't work.
He proceeded to pull up a message from one woman who responded to
a second email with, "Don't you get it? 'No answer' means 'NO
INTEREST'!"
ONE EMAIL from ONE WOMAN had such a profound impact on my friend
that it shaped his ENTIRE OPINION on the matter.
Are you kidding me?
Never mind the fact that I could pull up probably fifty or so
positive responses to second emails from my own personal online
dating "archives".
And never mind also that yes...I too had a few emails sent back
to me that read similarly to his. The overwhelmingly positive
ratio based on greater number of instances flat-out did not
matter to my friend.
What this all comes down to is that we as humans "tree hug" our
limiting beliefs at times to a point where all reason goes out the
window.
Simply put, when certain guys among us feel like believing
something negative to be true we only require a SINGLE SHRED OF
EVIDENCE in order to pronounce it so.
Consider the following example of "Y" approaching "X":
Y: "Hello, my name is Mike, what's yours?"
X: "Uh...my name is UNAVAILABLE, dork. Now get outta my face.
No woman could possibly want a total loser like you!"
"Y" then proceeds to shy away from approaching another woman all
night (or all year...or all decade).
Why is that?
After this brutal deal, his fragile self-esteem is shattered and
he internalizes and believes what he has just been told...by ONE
person.
Conversely, however, had the woman responded in a powerfully
positive way, Mike may theoretically have been left thinking,
"I'm INVINCIBLE...all women LOVE me!"
Either way, logical fallacy is at play here.
Think about that for a second, because it's a HEAVY thought.
There is almost never any valid way to pronounce absolute truth
upon a variable situation based on a single event--be the
outcome favorable OR not.
"ABC airlines crashed last year. Therefore I'm never flying ABC
airlines because they always crash!"
"My very first date after the divorce was a disaster. I'm through
with dating."
"My last girlfriend proved to by psychotic. All women are crazy!"
And even on the women's side of the ledger, the same thought process
often creeps in:
"The last guy I went out with couldn't keep his paws off of me.
All men are dogs!"
While it's perfectly natural for a bad experience here and there to
"harsh our buzz", some people can presented with a steady stream of
evidence to the CONTRARY of the negative beliefs they happen to
hold...and STILL not snap out of it.
It's as if some of us really would RATHER hold on to the negative
belief than cash it in on a much more productive one. It's "fear
of success" in its purest form.
For example, I can't tell you how many beautiful women I went out
with who viewed themselves as "ugly" and/or "worthless".
After all, that's the last thing their ex-husbands told them before
leaving, of course.
Meanwhile, these same women were typically turning heads so fast
that men were getting whiplash.
Perhaps this topic has hit home for many of you.
What are your own limiting beliefs that are restricting you from a
wildly successful dating life?
More importantly, how did those limiting beliefs get there?
If you take an honest look at the problem you are likely to find
that the opinion of a very small minority has shaped your thoughts.
And most importantly, if all of this rings true then why is it you
are more comfortable with limitation than with empowerment?
How in the world can that EVER possibly benefit you?
Begin to see yourself as others truly see you and lose the "logical
fallacies". This is absolutely prerequisite to deserving what you
want.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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