[X&Y] Why Pretty Women In The Sears Catalog Don't Turn Us On
Published: Sat, 09/27/14
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Lots of people appear to use the terms "beautiful",
"cute" and "sexy" interchangeably. Meanwhile, you've probablyoverheard a woman wishing she was "beautiful" instead of just "cute".
What gives? And more importantly, what's the difference? Read on
to find out why you likely ALREADY KNOW there's a HUGE difference...
and what that means to you.
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BEAUTIFUL, CUTE AND SEXY: WHAT DO THESE TERMS REALLY MEAN?
I know what you might be thinking.
"What on Earth do we need THIS newsletter for?"
If you found yourself asking just that upon reading the title, stay
tuned. You may be in for a big surprise.
Why is that? Simple. Although very often used in similar
contexts, these three terms are NOT interchangeable.
In fact, it's not only possible but also probable that a certain
person may be one or both, but not all three.
Let's break it down:
Beautiful
beau·ti·ful
adj.
1. Having qualities that delight the senses, especially the sense
of sight.
The description of "beautiful" clearly points to something or
someone being "easy on the eyes". Below the above definition on
www.dictionary.com, the phrase "excites aesthetic admiration"
qualifies it further.
So, when we find someone "beautiful", we are recognizing that the
person is easy to look at. There is not necessarily anything more
to it.
Cute
cute
adj. cut·er, cut·est
1. Delightfully pretty or dainty.
2. Obviously contrived to charm; precious
If a person is perceived to be charming and precious, this causes
the beholder to be enthralled and to ascribe great worth to
him/her.
Now, notice here that the first definition specifically points to
the kind of femininity that "delights". This would make
"cuteness" in this regard decidedly a female thing.
However, being "charming" is exactly what would cause a man to be
seen as a "cute guy"...unless, of course, the terms are getting
crossed up here, which is exactly what we're seeking to clarify.
Notice that being "cute" is not necessarily about physical
appearance. What it is about, concisely put, is "warm fuzzies".
"Cute" people fill our hearts with emotion. They bring a smile to
our faces and make us want to hug them. (Yeah, like a baby duck or
something.)
Sexy
sex·y
adj. sex·i·er, sex·i·est
1. Arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest.
Someone who is 'sexy' arouses an animal sexual attraction. It's
that simple. No further explanation required.
OK, so how can we use this information?
For starters, I think it's crucial for us to know the difference
between these three and how they relate to not only ourselves but
our view of others. Although these concepts are clearly NOT
interchangeable, they are very much interrelated.
Know who you are and how that affects your world. And know what
you are looking for in the dating world and understand why.
Simply thinking about all of this with the lights on will help you
sort these somewhat subjective concepts out for yourself, but far
be it from me to leave you without some basic thoughts.
For example, I don't know how many times I've heard a cute woman
say, "I am SOOOO sick of hearing how 'cute' I am. Why can't I be
beautiful?"
But "cute" is NOT a bad thing. Considering the depth cuteness has
relative to either "beautiful" or "sexy" as pertaining to the
entire being, I could argue that cuteness rules over either of the
other traits.
In fact, I personally consider cuteness to be a major pointer to
both beauty and sexiness. Not everyone is like me, but I know I
am not alone.
Sexiness is a trait that is best defined by those in a position
to be sexually attracted. If this sounds way too obvious, think
again. I've heard plenty of heterosexual women attempting to sort
this out with regard to other women. Usually, they are perceiving
cuteness or beauty as automatic sexiness...
...OR they are considering another woman and "wondering what men
see in her". Indeed...sexiness may very well be independent of
cuteness or physical beauty, and largely defined by archetypal,
primal factors.
It is entirely possible to be "beautiful" and yet be emotionally
uninspiring in either of the other two areas. Think of someone you
know who you realize is easy on the eyes, yet you just don't "feel
it" for him/her. You got it...that person is neither cute nor sexy
to you.
They look good, but aren't attractive. For me personally, models
in Sears catalogs and Wal-Mart circulars (i.e. anyplace other
than the "sexy" lingerie shops like Victoria's Secret) often are
quintessential examples of what I am talking about here.
What category or categories someone falls in is completely
subjective, of course. Not only do opinions vary between other
people, but these opinions are made purely unconsciously. We do
not make a deliberate decision, per se, as to where to slot someone.
To sum it up, my humble opinion is that three completely different
emotions are driven by the three respective traits discussed.
Beauty drives admiration. Cuteness drives affection. Sexiness
drives desire.
Where are your priorities when it comes to all of this? One or two
above the other(s)? All three? None of the above? Are you sure?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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