[X&Y] Should You Really "Conquer" Approach Anxiety?
Published: Fri, 10/31/14
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IN THIS EDITION: Want to deal with the fear of meeting women?
Don't be surprised if "dealing with " may not end up meaning "doing
away with"...
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IT'S HALLOWEEN WEEKEND. MEET SOME WOMEN.
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IT'S HALLOWEEN WEEKEND. MEET SOME WOMEN.
As you read this, it's October 31st. Halloween.
Tonight and perhaps tomorrow night also there WILL be parties.
At those parties, all the women you know who you'd give your left
nut to be with will be showing off everything they can't during
business hours.
Halloween just has that effect on sexy women. Even the more
conservative ones turn up in cat suits, bunny outfits and even
"naughty nurse" costumes.
Here's a secret: Wearing that outfit is going to turn them on,
whether you realize it or not.
I want YOU to be the man who approaches them, talks to them
and ACTIVATES their feminine impulses.
And I definitely want you to keep both of your nuts in the
process.
Yesterday I brought back that approach50 coupon code that
let's you score my complete program on meeting, attracting and
making plans with women for 50% off. That's The Man's Approach:
http://www.themansapproach.com/subscribers
Before you go out tonight, listen to the first two audios.
You'll be off and running.
Then tomorrow listen to the next two. Tomorrow night you'll
experience more groundbreaking ridiculousness that you might
ever even have thought possible.
But the first order of business is to cash in that approach50
Tonight and perhaps tomorrow night also there WILL be parties.
At those parties, all the women you know who you'd give your left
nut to be with will be showing off everything they can't during
business hours.
Halloween just has that effect on sexy women. Even the more
conservative ones turn up in cat suits, bunny outfits and even
"naughty nurse" costumes.
Here's a secret: Wearing that outfit is going to turn them on,
whether you realize it or not.
I want YOU to be the man who approaches them, talks to them
and ACTIVATES their feminine impulses.
And I definitely want you to keep both of your nuts in the
process.
Yesterday I brought back that approach50 coupon code that
let's you score my complete program on meeting, attracting and
making plans with women for 50% off. That's The Man's Approach:
http://www.themansapproach.com/subscribers
Before you go out tonight, listen to the first two audios.
You'll be off and running.
Then tomorrow listen to the next two. Tomorrow night you'll
experience more groundbreaking ridiculousness that you might
ever even have thought possible.
But the first order of business is to cash in that approach50
coupon and score the program at half price:
Take 50% Off On The Order Page Using "approach50"
You really should be meeting and attracting the women you really,
truly want.
Especially "naughty nurses".
The approach50 coupon will expire in 48 hours, along with your
one-a-year shot at scoring Halloween hotties.
Don't miss out this time.
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SHOULD YOU REALLY "CONQUER" APPROACH ANXIETY?
Whenever you read anything on the subject of "approach anxiety",
it's usually in the context of KILLING it dead.
Words like "beating", "overcoming" and even "conquering" are
usually used in context.
But wait a second. Is that what's really necessary? In fact, let
me ask you this: Is that really what you WANT to do?
As silly as it may sound on the surface, that really is a fair
question.
After all, if we're utterly petrified by fear of "rejection" such
that we don't come anywhere close to ever talking to women we have
never met, then it could indeed LOOK like the obvious solution is
to eliminate the fear.
Here's what I think, though.
I don't think the main point should be to GET RID of the fear and
trepidation. Rather, we should be talking about HARNESSING that
energy and using it to our advantage.
Is a skydiver "fearless" when he jumps out of a plane?
Can a freestyle motocrosser help but be physiologically nervous
before attempting a double front-flip for the first time in
competition?
In either instance, the obvious answer is "of course not".
If you were to actually ask any those guys what's going on inside
before they "go big", they'll all tell you the same thing: It's
the adrenaline rush of the moment that really, truly motivates them.
It's not like they're Mr. Spock up there. They're human.
Emotions roll like thunder.
Right at the beginning of the Major League Baseball playoffs two
years ago, ESPN interviewed perennial all-star Yankee shortstop and
future hall-of-famer Derek Jeter. Here's direct a quote from the
story:
Now 37, Jeter won't feel a bit different from when he was a
21-year-old rookie. "You have butterflies every time," Jeter said.
"I think it is good to have butterflies. It means you still care."
To me, that captures the point perfectly.
When meeting women, you definitely don't want to "chicken out".
But if you can have the courage to acknowledge the "butterflies"
and approach anyway, you'll LOVE the feeling.
After all, the prospect of meeting a new female human being you
might have chemistry with SHOULD be as exciting to you as the
possibility of winning a baseball championship.
The fact that something very real is at stake SHOULD be exciting
instead of horrifying.
Like Derek Jeter, you SHOULD still "care".
The nerves you feel before boldly approaching a woman SHOULD remind
you that you're alive, not make you wish you were dead.
So why not go for it? What is there to gain by feeling like you're
in a championship game rather than watching from the sidelines? In
a word: everything.
Only the participants in the sport can ever win a ring, never the
spectators.
Let me close with one final, related note. Go ahead and
congratulate yourself if and when a woman adores you upon meeting
you.
There's no harm in letting something feel "too good to be true"
after you've already found out it IS true. The danger lies in
believing something is "too good to be true" beforehand, and
therefore never even trying.
If you "have to pinch yourself" when a great woman enters your
life, so be it. That's part of the spoils of gaining the
confidence to believe you can get the women you want.
Like a World Series champion lifting the trophy--it's not you can't
believe you were successful, it's just that it's a long-awaited
great feeling that has finally become a reality.
And don't kid yourself, he may have looked like a machine up
there Wednesday night, but even Madison Bumgarner had "butterflies".
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.
Take 50% Off On The Order Page Using "approach50"
You really should be meeting and attracting the women you really,
truly want.
Especially "naughty nurses".
The approach50 coupon will expire in 48 hours, along with your
one-a-year shot at scoring Halloween hotties.
Don't miss out this time.
=====
SHOULD YOU REALLY "CONQUER" APPROACH ANXIETY?
Whenever you read anything on the subject of "approach anxiety",
it's usually in the context of KILLING it dead.
Words like "beating", "overcoming" and even "conquering" are
usually used in context.
But wait a second. Is that what's really necessary? In fact, let
me ask you this: Is that really what you WANT to do?
As silly as it may sound on the surface, that really is a fair
question.
After all, if we're utterly petrified by fear of "rejection" such
that we don't come anywhere close to ever talking to women we have
never met, then it could indeed LOOK like the obvious solution is
to eliminate the fear.
Here's what I think, though.
I don't think the main point should be to GET RID of the fear and
trepidation. Rather, we should be talking about HARNESSING that
energy and using it to our advantage.
Is a skydiver "fearless" when he jumps out of a plane?
Can a freestyle motocrosser help but be physiologically nervous
before attempting a double front-flip for the first time in
competition?
In either instance, the obvious answer is "of course not".
If you were to actually ask any those guys what's going on inside
before they "go big", they'll all tell you the same thing: It's
the adrenaline rush of the moment that really, truly motivates them.
It's not like they're Mr. Spock up there. They're human.
Emotions roll like thunder.
Right at the beginning of the Major League Baseball playoffs two
years ago, ESPN interviewed perennial all-star Yankee shortstop and
future hall-of-famer Derek Jeter. Here's direct a quote from the
story:
Now 37, Jeter won't feel a bit different from when he was a
21-year-old rookie. "You have butterflies every time," Jeter said.
"I think it is good to have butterflies. It means you still care."
To me, that captures the point perfectly.
When meeting women, you definitely don't want to "chicken out".
But if you can have the courage to acknowledge the "butterflies"
and approach anyway, you'll LOVE the feeling.
After all, the prospect of meeting a new female human being you
might have chemistry with SHOULD be as exciting to you as the
possibility of winning a baseball championship.
The fact that something very real is at stake SHOULD be exciting
instead of horrifying.
Like Derek Jeter, you SHOULD still "care".
The nerves you feel before boldly approaching a woman SHOULD remind
you that you're alive, not make you wish you were dead.
So why not go for it? What is there to gain by feeling like you're
in a championship game rather than watching from the sidelines? In
a word: everything.
Only the participants in the sport can ever win a ring, never the
spectators.
Let me close with one final, related note. Go ahead and
congratulate yourself if and when a woman adores you upon meeting
you.
There's no harm in letting something feel "too good to be true"
after you've already found out it IS true. The danger lies in
believing something is "too good to be true" beforehand, and
therefore never even trying.
If you "have to pinch yourself" when a great woman enters your
life, so be it. That's part of the spoils of gaining the
confidence to believe you can get the women you want.
Like a World Series champion lifting the trophy--it's not you can't
believe you were successful, it's just that it's a long-awaited
great feeling that has finally become a reality.
And don't kid yourself, he may have looked like a machine up
there Wednesday night, but even Madison Bumgarner had "butterflies".
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2014. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.