We've all seen it happen before our very eyes.

Some other dude likes the same woman we do, but just as Murphy's
Law would dictate he pulls some sort of "rabbit out of the hat" and
walks off with her.

If you ever find yourself in that situation where a guy pulls out a
serious skill or maximizes a situation to his advantage, then you
might have felt pretty helpless in the moment.

But think about it.  As much as we'd like to think that it's looks,
money, a car or whatever that causes a woman to choose one man over
another, that's almost never REALLY it.

The fact of the matter is that the guy who gets the girl usually is
more AMAZING to her in some way that demonstrates the "big four"
pretty clearly.

He did SOMETHING very, very effective at attracting her and keeping
her attention.

Now, most lesser guys would simply get mad when another guy wins
out like that, and perhaps even be just a tad jealous.

And they may even think to themselves (if not blurt it out loud),
"Hey, that's not FAIR."

But not you...at least not from now on.

After all, you fully realize that "it's not fair" is the battle cry
of a VICTIM.

And you really can't blame another guy for having his eye on the
same woman you do, can you?  That makes him no better or worse than
you are, right?

So instead of feeling like that other dude just did something TO
you, you'll instead fully realize that the problem is, in fact,
that you didn't do as much FOR the woman you had your eye on.

No, I'm not talking about being a dancing monkey, giving her
expensive gifts or anything like that.

All I'm saying is that you didn't do as much of what it takes to
attract her as the other guy did.

Fortunately, that's something that can be fixed...with a little
forward-thinking proactivity on your part.

Instead of simmering quietly (or even sulking) when some other guy
is more awesome in a woman's eyes, use that moment as motivation to
go work on that skill for yourself.

When you get right down to it, it's going to come down to
confidence, being masculine in the way women define it, making
women feel safe and comfortable in your presence and/or a character
issue.

It'll somehow have SOMETHING to do with one of those "big four"
traits EVERY SINGLE TIME.

But you see, most guys RESENT losing out to another guy when they
should actually embrace the opportunity to get better that can come
from that moment.

My educated guess is that EVERY MAN who you've ever lost out to has
somewhere, somehow lost out in the exact same way...but made sure it
never happened again.

That was the difference between him and you in that situation, and
next time it'll be different for YOU...but only if your mindset is
one of positive forward movement instead of dejection.

And yes...THAT'S the attitude that differentiates guys who ultimately
succeed with high-quality women from those who don't.

 

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