[X&Y] "Mr. Nice Guy" Is No Hero
Published: Fri, 09/22/17
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“MR. NICE GUY” IS NO HERO
No matter where you are in the world, I’m sure you saw plenty
of footage of the tragic circumstances left in the wake of
hurricanes Harvey and Irma here in the States.
As Maria hit the Caribbean and most recently a cataclysmic
earthquake hit Mexico, the awe-inspiring scene was repeated.
Men stood up and did what men do. They risked their own
comfort, sustenance and even personal safety to protect and
save others.
Sure, women are perfectly capable of doing the same, but
there’s no doubt that the VAST majority of volunteer rescuers
were guys. Every media outlet’s lens proved it.
Now make no mistake, it was wonderful how this inspired
the anti-masculinity crowd to take an apparent respite from
going on about how all men are “toxic”, if only for a moment.
Generally speaking, the media praised these guys, dubbed
them heroes and acknowledged how the efforts of the “Cajun
Navy” and others absolutely saved lives that may have
otherwise been lost.
But if you’re reading this newsletter, you already know we as
men are generally not black-hearted predators.
You didn’t require a reminder. None of what you saw on TV
surprised you, and that’s fair enough.
But here’s what nobody talked about.
I strongly suspect that very few, if any, of those guys who
went about the masculine business of saving others were
“Mr. Nice Guy” types.
During one news report, I posed an offhand question to
Emily. “Hey, you know, I wonder how many times those guys
weren’t necessarily ‘Mr. Nice Guy’ about rescuing who they
needed to save?”
Emily responded immediately and bluntly. “I hope it was
NEVER!”
Her straight-faced answer and shocked expression
purposefully foiled the facetious subtlety of my question.
To her, as a woman, this was serious business.
Now don’t get us wrong. We’re not saying they should have
been mean, surly or somehow abusive about it.
We’re just betting they weren’t “nice” in the process, that’s
all.
Pleasant, perhaps. Well-intentioned, most probably. But
not “nice”.
Remember, ”Mr. Nice Guy” walks on eggshells, is overly
agreeable and lets people trample him underfoot. It’s all
because he lacks options.
Therefore, he fears loss and constantly seeks the approval
that eludes him.
Seeing this, women either consciously or unconsciously
find him utterly unattractive.
But now this shocking truth: Being “Mr. Nice Guy” is a
LUXURY.
Nobody has time for that when life and death are at stake.
How many times did a man with a boat have to practically
order a self-absorbed soul he was saving to “drop the
damn mega-sized suitcase, stop filling your arms with
household items and get in the effing boat!”
I genuinely trust it was quite often, or else fleeting time
would have been lost and precious space in the boat
squandered.
You get the idea.
Perhaps not coincidentally, I need both hands to count how
many times I heard female reporters wonder how many of
these guys were single.
One news outlet suggested they should create a
matchmaking service for hurricane volunteers and all the
women in Florida and southeast Texas looking for a “real
man”.
Darn skippy.
The reason why this whole scene captured female
imaginations everywhere is similar to what’s behind women
finding “men in uniform” irresistible.
Policemen, firemen, military personnel and others who
voluntarily put themselves in harm’s way represent the very
essence of provision and protection to women.
One day my son and daughter went on a field trip to the
Fire Station with a number of other kids. The guys couldn’t
have been kinder and more welcoming to the kids.
Everyone got to sit in the driver’s seat of a real, live fire
engine and turn the siren on and off.
They were good guys, but not “Mr. Nice Guys”.
If those same children were in a burning building, things
would be very different.
It would be all about the purpose. If a panicked child
resisted a fireman’s rescue, he’d sure as hell rescue the
kid anyway.
It’s hard to be a hero when you’re “Mr. Nice Guy”.
But heroes turn women on.
You don’t have to walk into a burning building to be a
hero to a woman. You may not ever have the chance
to save flood victims, either. You may not even have a
flat-bottomed boat.
But when you exude the aura of a man who is
Invincible, you’re ready and on-call to be a strong,
confident, dominant man of virtue when the time
comes.
Women sense that…because they CRAVE it. And it’s
enough.
So how can you be that man in a world that's seems as
if it's constantly trying to "tame" your masculinity?
Invincible is coming...Tuesday, September 26th at
5:00pm EDT.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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