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IN THIS EDITION:   Maybe you've had some personal challenges
of late.  Should you wait until that's all "water under the
bridge" before even thinking about going out with women again?

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READER QUESTION:  "SHOULD I GET THIS ISSUE HANDLED
BEFORE DATING AGAIN?"


Hi Scot,
 
I'm real interested to hear your take on this.

I am a 50 yr. old man, who has been out of the dating scene for a
while. I am ready to get back in, but I have been suffering from
some thyroid issues that make me extremely tired at times.

I have always been a robust guy, been active and athletic. I am
otherwise in great shape for my age.

What I am concerned about is I want a woman who is active, but
until I get my health challenge handled, I probably wont be able
to keep up with her
 
Should I wait until my health turns around before dating so that I
can deserve what I want?

Or should I go ahead and date now and mention my situation only to
women who I date more than a couple of times?
 
This is a bummer because there are times when even a low-key date
like dinner and walking around a mall can wear me out.
 

All the Best,

Milo (Glendale, California)



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Hello Milo:
 
Often times, you'll find mainstream dating advice that admonishes
you to wait out all of your excuses before pronouncing yourself
"ready" to date again. 

Well, it's my firm belief that the very last thing you want to do
is wait until conditions are seemingly perfect before dating again. 

Obviously, the "perfect" time and situation will never really happen.

But the more subtle reason is sometimes what we think are
major issues really aren't so much to women.
 
I clearly remember telling myself shortly after my divorce that I
needed to cut 30 pounds before I could expect to date.  It took a
few months to do that, and I indeed didn't date during that time. 

As it turned out, women enjoyed my company when I did start
dating, so I initially felt pretty good about having waited. 

But the crazy thing is that I ended up gaining the weight back (no
thanks to focusing on my social life rather than eating right and
going to the gym, which is another newsletter altogether)...and I
didn't see any less interest from women. 

If anything, there was more interest--probably because of what
had been happening in the self-development/"inner game" realm.
 
So yes...get back out there and meet some women!

When you choose to tell them about your situation is dependent
upon each individual scenario, I'd say. 

But I would agree that it's not first-date conversation.  Nothing
medical is.