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WHAT'S INSIDE:  Some people let their confidence get destroyed based
on just one shred of evidence, even if the body of evidence to the
contrary is immense.  What's going on there?

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come up with all of this?  Who cares?  Just enjoy it (along
with all of those bonuses he's forking over).



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DID YOUR CONFIDENCE GET CRUSHED TOO EASILY?


All of us are inspired when we hear stories of BELIEF in the face
of DOUBT.  Movies like "The Pursuit Of Happyness", "Rudy" and
"Hoosiers" all come to mind.

The characters in each respective flick are repeatedly told that they
would or even should fail, yet their sheer will and determination
carries them to wildly successful victory against all odds.

It's human nature for us to love these movies.

So why, then, is it also human nature for us to do the exact
opposite when is comes to our dating lives?

Why do we so often DOUBT in the face of BELIEF when it comes
to approaching women?

I mean, realistically speaking, the symptoms of this disorder often
extend even into first dates, second dates and possibly even into
50 year marriages.

Here's a case in point.

This week I was engaged in a discussion about online dating
involving the finer points of sending emails to women.  While
common wisdom suggests that a first email that goes unreturned
signals disinterest, I happen to believe that the very most popular
women online are often so inundated with messages that they
will respond ONLY to second attempts at contact.

Such women have become wise to "cut/paste" first emails from lazy,
unimaginative men and therefore want to know who is REALLY
interested enough to make a real effort.

While "always" is a precarious term to use when dealing with real
people, my personal field testing has shown that women will respond
to a well-placed and effectively written second email well over 50% of
the time.

[Editor's Note: OKCupid appears to have recently made this strategy
more difficult to implement. due to repeated cluelessness on the part
of guys who don't know what they hell they are doing.  Nevertheless,
the principle at play in this newsletter is still 100% valid.]

My friend vehemently disagreed and said he refuses to send second
emails to women.  After all, he's got "proof" it doesn't work.  He
proceeded to pull up an email from one woman who responded to a
second email with, "Don't you get it?  'No answer' means 'NO
INTEREST'!"

ONE EMAIL from ONE WOMAN had such a profound impact on my
friend that it shaped his ENTIRE OPINION on the matter.  Are you
kidding me?

Never mind the fact that I could pull up probably fifty or so
positive responses to second emails from my own personal online
dating "files".  And never mind also that yes...I too had a few
emails sent back to me that read similarly to his.

The overwhelmingly positive ratio based on greater number of
instances flat-out did not matter to my friend.

What this all comes down to is that we as humans "tree hug" our
limiting beliefs at times to a point where all reason goes out the
window.   Simply put, when certain among us feel like believing
something to be true we only require a single shred of evidence in
order to pronounce it so.   Consider the following example of "Y"
approaching "X":


Y:  "Hello, my name is Mike, what's yours?"

X:  "Uh...my name is UNAVAILABLE, dork.  Now get outta my face.  No
woman could possibly want a total loser like you!"


X then proceeds to shy away from approaching another woman all
night (or all year...or all decade).  Why?  After this brutal deal,
his self-esteem is "shattered" and he himself internalizes and
believes what he has just been told...by ONE person.

Conversely, however, had the woman responded in a powerfully
positive way, Mike may theoretically have been left thinking, "I'm
INVINCIBLE...all women LOVE me!"

Either way, logical fallacy is at play here.  There is almost never
any valid way to pronounce absolute truth upon a variable situation
based on a single event.


"ABC airlines crashed last year.  Therefore I'm never flying ABC
airlines because they always crash!"

"My very first date after the divorce was a disaster.  I'm through
with dating."

"My last girlfriend proved to by psychotic.  All women are crazy!"

"The last guy I went out with couldn't keep his paws off of me.
All men are dogs!"


While it's perfectly natural for a bad experience here and there to
"harsh our buzz", the most poignant aspect of this issue surrounds
the fact that some people can even be repeatedly presented with a
steady stream of evidence to the CONTRARY of the negative beliefs
they happen to hold...and STILL not snap out of it.

For example, I can't tell you how many beautiful women I went out with
who viewed themselves as "ugly" and/or "worthless".  Why?  Well, of
course, that's the last thing their ex-husbands told them before leaving.

Meanwhile, such women were typically busy at the same time turning
heads so fast that men were getting whiplash.

Perhaps this topic has hit home for many of you.  What are your own
limiting beliefs that are restricting you from a wildly successful
dating life?

More importantly, how did those limiting beliefs get there?

If you take an honest look at the problem you are likely to find that the
opinion of a very small minority has shaped your thoughts.

If so, why is it you are more comfortable with limitation than with
empowerment?

Begin to see yourself as others truly see you and lose the "logical
fallacies".  This is absolutely prerequisite to deserving what you want.