[X&Y] 5 Guys I'd Never Let Meet My Sister
Published: Sun, 05/13/18
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IN THIS EDITION: Are you the kind of man a woman should be with, or
should she run away?
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WHAT DO YOU THINK? Questions? Ideas? What would you like for
me to write about? Simply click "reply" to this newsletter and let me know.
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BE THE MAN SHE BRAGS ABOUT TO HER FRIENDS
In today's newsletter I'll describe five guys who you NEVER want to
be. That is, if you expect to have a high quality woman in your life.
But far be it from me to leave you hanging as to what kind of
guy to be instead.
The answer is simple: Be The Leading Man.
He's the guy who manages relationships with women in a way that
makes them WANT to stick around.
Do away with the "revolving door" of women in and out of your life...
and make sure you never have to experience the searing pain of
losing the one you really wanted.
From now on you can be the kind of man who not only attracts and
amazes women, but who also KEEPS them attracted and amazed:
50% Off The Leading Man + Your Choice
Yesterday I announced a special 48 hour window in which you can
get 50% off The Leading Man, PLUS get a second program of
your choice with purchase.
That promo is still on, but only for another 24 hours.
Simply enter your choice of Invincible, Behind Closed Doors, The
Big 4 Man Challenge, The Walking Code, Massage Your Date, The
Man's Approach, The Difference, The Master Plan, Female
Persuasion, Virtuosity or Online Dating Domination 2.0 and I'll send
you the full, complete versions of BOTH programs.
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5 GUYS I'D NEVER LET MEET MY SISTER
I've noticed something really weird about the e-mails we get.
Whenever a guy writes us, he's almost always wondering how to get a
woman (or six) into his life.
But when women write us, they're almost always asking what to do
about a guy they're already dating.
Pretty wild, huh?
For whatever reason that phenomenon exists, it is what it is.
I have to say, though, that one recurring thought often crosses my
mind when women write us.
"Man...this would be a lot easier to solve if the guy himself was
talking to us instead of the woman he's dating."
By now you know that Emily and I are equal opportunity dating
coaches. We believe both men and women can get things right,
and both can mess things up.
And there are representatives of both genders who have good
intentions with MOTOS (members of the other sex), and others
whose intentions are not so good.
So yes, at I'll tell a woman exactly why she's screwing up her
relationship. And I'm not shy about it.
But don't kid yourself. Other times I'll tell her to drop
everything and run away from the guy she's seeing.
So my question to you today is a poignant but important one: What
would I tell a woman you're dating to do about YOU if she called me
and asked?
Here are five guys I universally tell women to say "next" to:
1) "DISAPPEARING GUY"
If only I had a dollar for every woman who has ever written us
wanting to know what to do about a guy who's dropped off the face
of the Earth.
Yeah, well...you and I already know he's no longer interested.
But the point is he should have been man enough to give her the
straight truth about there being a better match out there for her
than him.
But most of us as guys would rather avoid the potential emotional
drama of being forthright with a woman than to man-up and do the
respectable thing.
Seriously...if a woman likes you, then she really believes "you had
fun" and that "you'll call her" when you say you will. If you utter
phrases like that and don't do what you say you're going to, you
lack character. Period, end of story.
And if you lack character, then I'm not going to be shy about
telling women to forget about you.
2) "LYING GUY"
There was a hilarious commercial from a mobile provider where a
man and a woman are at a speed dating event. The man tells her
that "all he wants is to settle down and have kids", but the woman
counters by reading his bio-statement that says the opposite.
From there, everything he says turns out to be in direct contrast
to what he's said elsewhere.
I don't personally believe that all men are liars like some "lady
guru" dating coaches tend to assert. But there are some of us who
perpetuate that belief, much to the chagrin of the guys out there
who have integrity.
This really is a case of the bad apples spoiling the whole bushel.
Horrible.
The bottom line is that if you've been telling women whatever you
think they want to hear just to get in their pants, I'm going to
recommend to the women you've been seeing that they keep their
panties on...just like I'd tell you to watch your wallet if a woman
was whispering empty "sweet nothings" to you.
3) "NEUTER GUY"
Look, if you're NOT coming off as a masculine man, you're not
attracting women. Sexual polarity is what keeps you from hearing
the dreaded "just be friends" talk.
Women deserve to feel sexual attraction every bit as much as you
do.
So when women write us expressing crushing guilt because they're
dating a "great guy" who they "just don't feel it for", we explain
to them exactly why they feel the way they do and help lift the
guilt of kicking him to the curb off their shoulders.
Never hide your masculine presence because you think it'll turn
women off. The opposite is true, as long as you're not pushy or
predatory about it.
4) "LITTLE BOY GUY"
Not only should you be a man who shows responsibility as a
provider, protector and a leader, women have every right to never
settle for a guy who demonstrates anything less.
When women tell us how frustrated they are by a guy's double-talk,
bad decisions, lack of a plan, inability to make her feel safe
and/or overall flakiness we affirm her frustration and do what we
can to assure her there's another guy out there who really "gets
it".
That's the guy she should be with instead...a mature man, not a
child.
5) "SUBTLE RED FLAG GUY"
The more I think about this one, the more I'm tempted to just call
him "Manipulative Guy".
When you think about it, a person (man or woman) who shows you just
a glimpse of what he or she is like in hopes you'll believe something
else is going on that head of theirs is really just trying to warm you up
to accept whatever they send your way later.
We've heard from women who see a "really, really nice guy" verbally
abuse a waitress or a relative early on but dismiss it in the
moment. Sure enough, once there's more water under the bridge
between them he starts verbally abusing her also.
A more innocuous example would be the lighter found in the guy's
silverware drawer that's allegedly used to "start the grill", when
a month or so down the road his closet smoking habit turns out to
be for real.
A more extreme example would be the guy with a vicious jealous
streak who seems "normal" up front, but knocks up his girlfriend
and marries her very quickly so as to lock her down from even so
much as leaving the house later.
Now that I've given you some hints that might help you arrive at a
well-informed answer regarding whether I'd recommend you to a
woman or not, let me make one thing perfectly clear. The point of
this exercise is to give you some 20/20 foresight. I'm all about
helping you WIN with women from the very start.
So if some of what I'm about to say hits home, that's a GOOD thing.
This message is going out to around 61,000 guys so please don't
take it personally. Use it to correct your course and thrill
women's brains out instead of making them write to Emily.
Rest assured that if you're a "big four" man who is confident,
masculine in the way women respond to, able to make a woman feel
safe and comfortable in your presence and has strong character
I'll be sure to tell a woman she'd be absolutely crazy not to
treat you right and do what she could to keep you interested.
And yes, it'd be up to you whether you stayed with her or not.
That's no coincidence.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Call your mother today. It matters.
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This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
IN THIS EDITION: Are you the kind of man a woman should be with, or
should she run away?
=====
WHAT DO YOU THINK? Questions? Ideas? What would you like for
me to write about? Simply click "reply" to this newsletter and let me know.
=====
BE THE MAN SHE BRAGS ABOUT TO HER FRIENDS
In today's newsletter I'll describe five guys who you NEVER want to
be. That is, if you expect to have a high quality woman in your life.
But far be it from me to leave you hanging as to what kind of
guy to be instead.
The answer is simple: Be The Leading Man.
He's the guy who manages relationships with women in a way that
makes them WANT to stick around.
Do away with the "revolving door" of women in and out of your life...
and make sure you never have to experience the searing pain of
losing the one you really wanted.
From now on you can be the kind of man who not only attracts and
amazes women, but who also KEEPS them attracted and amazed:
50% Off The Leading Man + Your Choice
Yesterday I announced a special 48 hour window in which you can
get 50% off The Leading Man, PLUS get a second program of
your choice with purchase.
That promo is still on, but only for another 24 hours.
Simply enter your choice of Invincible, Behind Closed Doors, The
Big 4 Man Challenge, The Walking Code, Massage Your Date, The
Man's Approach, The Difference, The Master Plan, Female
Persuasion, Virtuosity or Online Dating Domination 2.0 and I'll send
you the full, complete versions of BOTH programs.
=====
5 GUYS I'D NEVER LET MEET MY SISTER
I've noticed something really weird about the e-mails we get.
Whenever a guy writes us, he's almost always wondering how to get a
woman (or six) into his life.
But when women write us, they're almost always asking what to do
about a guy they're already dating.
Pretty wild, huh?
For whatever reason that phenomenon exists, it is what it is.
I have to say, though, that one recurring thought often crosses my
mind when women write us.
"Man...this would be a lot easier to solve if the guy himself was
talking to us instead of the woman he's dating."
By now you know that Emily and I are equal opportunity dating
coaches. We believe both men and women can get things right,
and both can mess things up.
And there are representatives of both genders who have good
intentions with MOTOS (members of the other sex), and others
whose intentions are not so good.
So yes, at I'll tell a woman exactly why she's screwing up her
relationship. And I'm not shy about it.
But don't kid yourself. Other times I'll tell her to drop
everything and run away from the guy she's seeing.
So my question to you today is a poignant but important one: What
would I tell a woman you're dating to do about YOU if she called me
and asked?
Here are five guys I universally tell women to say "next" to:
1) "DISAPPEARING GUY"
If only I had a dollar for every woman who has ever written us
wanting to know what to do about a guy who's dropped off the face
of the Earth.
Yeah, well...you and I already know he's no longer interested.
But the point is he should have been man enough to give her the
straight truth about there being a better match out there for her
than him.
But most of us as guys would rather avoid the potential emotional
drama of being forthright with a woman than to man-up and do the
respectable thing.
Seriously...if a woman likes you, then she really believes "you had
fun" and that "you'll call her" when you say you will. If you utter
phrases like that and don't do what you say you're going to, you
lack character. Period, end of story.
And if you lack character, then I'm not going to be shy about
telling women to forget about you.
2) "LYING GUY"
There was a hilarious commercial from a mobile provider where a
man and a woman are at a speed dating event. The man tells her
that "all he wants is to settle down and have kids", but the woman
counters by reading his bio-statement that says the opposite.
From there, everything he says turns out to be in direct contrast
to what he's said elsewhere.
I don't personally believe that all men are liars like some "lady
guru" dating coaches tend to assert. But there are some of us who
perpetuate that belief, much to the chagrin of the guys out there
who have integrity.
This really is a case of the bad apples spoiling the whole bushel.
Horrible.
The bottom line is that if you've been telling women whatever you
think they want to hear just to get in their pants, I'm going to
recommend to the women you've been seeing that they keep their
panties on...just like I'd tell you to watch your wallet if a woman
was whispering empty "sweet nothings" to you.
3) "NEUTER GUY"
Look, if you're NOT coming off as a masculine man, you're not
attracting women. Sexual polarity is what keeps you from hearing
the dreaded "just be friends" talk.
Women deserve to feel sexual attraction every bit as much as you
do.
So when women write us expressing crushing guilt because they're
dating a "great guy" who they "just don't feel it for", we explain
to them exactly why they feel the way they do and help lift the
guilt of kicking him to the curb off their shoulders.
Never hide your masculine presence because you think it'll turn
women off. The opposite is true, as long as you're not pushy or
predatory about it.
4) "LITTLE BOY GUY"
Not only should you be a man who shows responsibility as a
provider, protector and a leader, women have every right to never
settle for a guy who demonstrates anything less.
When women tell us how frustrated they are by a guy's double-talk,
bad decisions, lack of a plan, inability to make her feel safe
and/or overall flakiness we affirm her frustration and do what we
can to assure her there's another guy out there who really "gets
it".
That's the guy she should be with instead...a mature man, not a
child.
5) "SUBTLE RED FLAG GUY"
The more I think about this one, the more I'm tempted to just call
him "Manipulative Guy".
When you think about it, a person (man or woman) who shows you just
a glimpse of what he or she is like in hopes you'll believe something
else is going on that head of theirs is really just trying to warm you up
to accept whatever they send your way later.
We've heard from women who see a "really, really nice guy" verbally
abuse a waitress or a relative early on but dismiss it in the
moment. Sure enough, once there's more water under the bridge
between them he starts verbally abusing her also.
A more innocuous example would be the lighter found in the guy's
silverware drawer that's allegedly used to "start the grill", when
a month or so down the road his closet smoking habit turns out to
be for real.
A more extreme example would be the guy with a vicious jealous
streak who seems "normal" up front, but knocks up his girlfriend
and marries her very quickly so as to lock her down from even so
much as leaving the house later.
Now that I've given you some hints that might help you arrive at a
well-informed answer regarding whether I'd recommend you to a
woman or not, let me make one thing perfectly clear. The point of
this exercise is to give you some 20/20 foresight. I'm all about
helping you WIN with women from the very start.
So if some of what I'm about to say hits home, that's a GOOD thing.
This message is going out to around 61,000 guys so please don't
take it personally. Use it to correct your course and thrill
women's brains out instead of making them write to Emily.
Rest assured that if you're a "big four" man who is confident,
masculine in the way women respond to, able to make a woman feel
safe and comfortable in your presence and has strong character
I'll be sure to tell a woman she'd be absolutely crazy not to
treat you right and do what she could to keep you interested.
And yes, it'd be up to you whether you stayed with her or not.
That's no coincidence.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Call your mother today. It matters.
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(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2018. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.