[X&Y] "Take Two. They're Small" (This Will Overcome Fear Of Approaching)
Published: Sun, 05/27/18
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IN THIS EDITION: If you've ever found yourself paralyzed by the
thought of even TALKING to women, then this is for you.
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ALL (THIS IS IMPORTANT, GENTLEMEN)
Summer is "unofficially" here as of this weekend.
If you're like me, you have this nagging feeling it's time to stop
messing around and get our fitness under control.
That means both our physique and our very health itself.
You may have heard about "keto" diets, but they seem like a
fad.
Yet, there's something to it. BUT...you've got to back up what
you're doing to get in shape with FACTS...
...and better yet, RESULTS.
I hear you.
And getting this handled sounds GREAT. After all, we have
WAY too much to live for just to let this continue to slip.
So what's stopping us from getting after it?
Well, we as men tend to deal with a lot of stress, work too many
hours and sacrifice solid eating habits in favor of speed and
convenience.
This all tends to lead to scary-ass stuff like "insulin resistance",
overall fatigue, and heart rhythm issues.
Ever had that weird feeling that your heart hurts...but maybe it's
just stress you're carrying in your rib cage?
Ever wake up feeling "hung over", but you didn't drink anything
the night before?
Well...not too long ago I personally decided it was time to get
control over my health again.
I'm still working on it, but so far the results have been pretty
amazing.
And this is the way I recommend going about it for yourself:
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This is like "hacking" your health...and you'll start seeing
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If you're a "big four" man with big dreams and people
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this has GOT to get under control.
Draw that line in the sand, like I did.
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TWO "BONANZAS" SHOULD BE ALL IT TAKES
It's a well-known fact of life that once you succeed at getting a
girlfriend, you tend to suddenly start having more opportunities
with women than ever before.
As I've written to you about in the past, oftentimes that
phenomenon has everything to do with both increased confidence
with women and the basic fact that the perceived stakes are lower
every time you talk to one.
Simply stated, since you're already "taken" you have nothing to
gain or lose--socially or sexually, for that matter--when talking to
even the most beautiful woman.
Well, today I've got a twist on all of that for you. It's a
variation on the theme that represents the next logical step, if
you will.
That's this. What if you don't exactly have a steady girlfriend at
the moment?
What if you don't even particularly WANT one right now?
Can you somehow harness the confidence and freedom from fear
of rejection that guys with girlfriends so often enjoy?
Yes...you most certainly can. And here's what I believe to be the
magic formula.
All you really, honestly need is two "bonanzas".
For the purposes here, let's define "bonanza" in this context as "a
woman who you find hot and sexy who is also attracted to you in
return".
You see, I've always loved the word "bonanza". Every time I'd go
on a first meeting with a woman I'd been talking to online who
dramatically exceeded even my highest expectations in real life, it
would be the first word that popped into my mind.
According to Dictionary.com, the word "bonanza" was originally used
in the mining industry and means "a source of great and sudden
wealth or luck; a spectacular windfall".
So yes. Meeting women online who seemed pretty good in their
profiles but who blow away expectations in real life would easily
classify as "bonanzas". The usage is perfect.
Personally, I also recognized "bonanza" women as representing an
ongoing abundance of good fortune to come.
Whenever I met one, it was as if I'd take a deep breath and relax
...no more "heavy lifting" was necessary.
So yes. If you've got a woman whom you are in an exclusive
relationship with, I would most certainly trust she represents a
"bonanza" to you.
That should go without saying, since if it's otherwise you're
already settling.
But if you'd rather date multiple women right now, all you need is
to have TWO "bonanza" women in your life to enjoy the same
psychological bliss and exponential favor from even MORE women
than ever before.
At this point you may be ready to throw rotten veggies at your
computer screen.
"But Scot, I can't even get ONE half-way decent woman to go out
with me...and you're talking about TWO who exceed expectations
already?"
Hang in there with me. I promise I'm not suggesting anything
particularly advanced here.
I often draw the analogy between approaching sexy women and
skydiving. The short version is that at SOME POINT you've got to
go ahead and jump out of the plane.
To be perfectly frank, MOST guys I know don't have any women in
their lives because they aren't MEETING any.
You've got to go where the women are. Hint: that's not in your
living room watching the tube.
Next, you've got to really, actually TALK to some and gather the
boldness to get their numbers and ask them out.
For sure, if you've got a recurring pattern of negative responses
from virtually all women you interact with, give me a call and
let's do a 1-on-1 coaching session to shake that out.
The good news there is that if you're seeing a consistent pattern
then you almost always have control over changing it.
Nevertheless, when you get right down to it, what I'm pointing to
here stands alone as a striking, poignant reality: Were you to
have a mere TWO women in your life who you were pleased with,
you'd all but conquer your fear of rejection FOREVER.
Additionally, your confidence along with your imminent desirability
to those two women would activate a super magnet to attract even
MORE women...just like what happens for guys who have girlfriends.
I really think all of that's true, and here's why. If you just
happen across one hottie who is interested in you, it might be easy
to chalk that up as some sort of fluke.
In other words, maybe you "accidentally" met her, or maybe she's
got some weird taste in guys that just so happened to work out in
your favor.
But when you have TWO hot, sexy women who agree that you're
terrific, the whole dynamic changes. There's validation in numbers
there. You can no longer dismiss it as a fluke or some sort of
happy accident.
Plus, you then have OPTIONS. This is magical. There's no need to
fear losing one of those women because even if that happened you'd
still have another to go out with.
And then there's the simple psychological truth that no matter what
ANY woman could ever do or say to assault your confidence, there
are at least TWO other women who'd flatly disagree with whatever
reason why she chose to "reject" you.
The net/net of it is that when you have TWO great women in your
life, you lose the urgency associated with meeting women.
You also lose the fear of emotional pain caused by rejection.
After all, you've already got multiple women who adore you.
Then, you start seeing more interest from more women as a direct
result. Only YOU have the freedom to act upon your newfound
options, whereas guys in exclusive relationships do not.
This all sounds terrific to you, I'm sure. Yet I can already hear
someone saying that it all still sounds out of reach.
If that's YOU I hear, I challenge you to jump out of the plane. Do
that knowing it's only going to take TWO successful approaches to
cure what may have been a lifetime of fear.
Are you willing to risk unfavorable results a few times in order to
enjoy the "bonanza" that likely awaits you?
I assure you that I'm not being irrational here. I have not lost
focus on what it's like to be dateless.
Rather, what I'm telling you is that most guys who finally break
the ice and actually approach some women are actually THRILLED
with the results...even if they've only stood on the sidelines worrying
about it for YEARS.
TWO. That's ALL it takes.
And yes, I've experienced what I'm talking about here personally.
It really was like flipping a switch and turning on the light the
very first time I found myself with TWO "bonanza" women in my life.
Suddenly I was fearless. I indeed talked to women as if I were
emotionally invincible.
Better still, when I went out on dates with the third or fourth
"bonanza" woman I could potentially add to my social life I relaxed
and did what I already knew worked the other times.
There was no longer any freaking out over trying not to mess up.
Can you believe that the ONLY real difference between the multitude
of men who NEVER get the success with women they want and the
tiny percentage who do may really only be TWO "bonanzas"?
Could this really explain why you see guys who aren't exactly "Mr.
Perfect" out there with beautiful women?
And most importantly of all, can you get excited about an initially
intimidating challenge of attracting just TWO high quality women
with the promise of forever CURING yourself of "approach anxiety"?
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