[X&Y] Hold On Loosely, But Don't Let Go...
Published: Thu, 11/21/19
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IN THIS EDITION: Acting out on most song lyrics wouldn't serve you
well in real life. Here's a key exception...
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HOLD ON LOOSELY, BUT DON'T LET GO...
I'll admit to holding some strong opinions on how completely
wussified song lyrics are these days.
But I wanted to be sure to give equal time to at least one
example of a song that has a fairly solid take on life.
While Smokey Robinson was still crying "The Tears Of A Clown"
(and having women throw underwear at him anyway), a certain
southern rock band in the early '80's had this take on women
instead:
"Hold On Loosely" by .38 Special (1981)
You see it all around you
Good loving gone bad
And usually it's too late when you
Realize what you had
And my mind goes back
To a girl I met some years ago
Who told me
Just hold on loosely but don't let her go
If you cling too tightly
You're gonna lose control
Your girl needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in
It's so damn easy
When your feelings are such
To overprotect her
To love her too much
And my mind goes back
To a girl I met some years ago
Who told me
Just hold on loosely but don't let her go
If you cling too tightly
You're gonna lose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in
There you have a good plan for showing just enough interest
in a woman without giving your power away, huh?
And you've got to appreciate the apparent irony of how the male
songwriters perpetrated like it was actually a woman giving the
advice.
It's as if that would somehow make the song's message more
credible, even though we all know that in real life women seldom
articulate what they really want from a man with such clarity.
It's all weirdly similar to what goes on in Shakespearean plays
like "Twelfth Night" where a man plays a woman disguised as a
man.
But anyway, I wanted to be sure to give a shout out to at least one
rock and roll song that got it right.
If you can think of other good examples, by all means write me at
scot@deservewhatyouwant.com.
For what it's worth, "Cherry Pie" by Warrant won't count.
And hey, there's one more minor detail before I wrap this up.
Lest I be reminded of it by one of you, let me be the first to
acknowledge that .38 Special is unfortunately the same band
that's also responsible for this shocker:
So caught up in you, little girl
You're the one that's got me down on my knees
(from So Caught Up In You by .38 Special. 1982)
Man, that hurts. And that came out a year after "Hold On
Loosely", no less. They should have known better.
All I can say is that you wouldn't have caught Molly Hatchet
writing lyrics like that.
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