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IN THIS EDITION:  The craziest thing about this "rookie
mistake" I made back in the day is that you might actually
look forward to making it yourself sometime soon.  Weird...

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THE TRUE ORIGINAL NEVER FAILS, DOES IT?


Have you ever watched old Marx Brothers movies from the '30's?

I know, weird question...especially if the answer is "no".

But I'll never forget the first time I ever watched A Day At The
Races.  I was shocked by how funny it was.  I laughed out loud
every ten seconds.

It only took a couple of minutes to realize the obvious:  Since
motion pictures were so new, these guys got to come up with
all the good jokes and sight gags before anyone else thought
of them.

Eighty-five years later it's still funny, of course. Humor is humor,
and what they did was flat-out hilarious.

I've come to realize that the art and science involved with women
and dating is exactly like that.

Sure, I talk to guys who think that everything has completely
changed since before they were married and divorced, or since
the Internet became so ubiquitous.

But ultimately, men are still men and women are still women.

They're attracted the same way they've always been.  Masculinity
and femininity still do the heavy lifting.

That's why I think that holiday offer that David DeAngelo has
going on is so completely killer.

You see, David D. was really the first true "900 lb. gorilla" in
the men's dating advice space.

Mystery was doing bootcamps here and there, but it was David
D. who did such an amazing job at forming his thoughts into
e-books and blazed the trail for so many of us.

Basically, like the Marx Brothers did in the early days of funny
movies, David D. got to come up with many of the most basic,
practical and brilliant observations before anyone else did.

Now, once you watch David D.s video explaining the STACKED
bundle he's put together, you'll quickly realize that he and
Groucho Marx couldn't be more different.

But yes...this is the legendary and dead-on accurate collection
of brilliance that has made his work so influential over the years:



https://www.scotrecommends.com/davidd



Importantly, there's not much time to snap up this treasure chest
of powerful results waiting to happen.

So if you've been kicking the tires on this, now is the time to go
for it.

You get his epic Mastery Series, with guys on stage who've since
become legends.

It's just brilliant to behold.  You'll get five or ten amazing new
insights every minute.

Then you get Power Sexuality, which is just as insanely effective
and action-packed a program its own right.

You see, David D. used to send out big, expensive boxes of
dozens of CDs and DVDs when guys ordered these programs.

But now he's finally joined the MP3 age and gone into "immediate
gratification" mode.

And you won't believe how low he's letting those programs go for.

But he didn't stop there.

You ALSO get five amazing interviews with dating gurus.  I used
to wait impatiently by the mailbox for those to arrive every month.

And THEN you'll even get two more unannounced dating gurus
interviews---mine from Feb 2007 (which was a huge thrill) AND
the now infamous one featuring Rob Brinded as well.

David D. was a huge influence on me personally, of course.

I still remember that first time I "flew without a net" on a first date,
trusting the preposterous advice he gave.

And I watched in awe as it worked EXACTLY like he promised it
would.

Now it's your turn to experience that same thrill:



https://www.scotrecommends.com/davidd



After all...the more things change, the more everything really does
remain the same.



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THE WEIRDEST "ROOKIE MISTAKE" I MADE PERSONALLY


Several years ago I was a guest on a podcast hosted by a guy who
specializes in helping "newbies" learn pickup.

As the conversation turned to online dating I was asked to share
about my own experiences and perhaps give some recommendations to
guys who were listening.

I brought up that when the "light bulb" goes on and a guy gets good
at writing women and screening them he can find himself going on
quite a few "first meetings", expecting most if not ALL of them
to go reasonably well.

As a direct result, he can find himself telling a whole lot of
women that he'd indeed be interested in seeing them again.

Before he knows it, there might be 15 or 16 women out there who are
expecting to go out again sometime, and this can actually happen
within the brief span of a couple of weeks.

Not giving much thought at the time to the true weight of my words,
I casually mentioned that I'd personally experienced that exact
scenario.

Now, once the podcast aired the comments on the guy's blog started
to pile up, most of them saying that I must be a complete liar and
that there's NO WAY I could have been "dating 16 women at once".

To most of the guys who were listening the thought of having a
high quality problem like that was unfathomable.

But wait a second...I just uttered the magic words "high quality
problem", right?

The very next notion that I had made perfectly clear in the podcast
was that my FAILURE to manage the number of women who expected to
see me again after my respective "first meetings" with them had
been a rookie mistake.

But the audience wasn't hearing that part for some reason.

Nevertheless, make no mistake about it:  I had messed up by letting
it get to that point.

In other words, though a guy who's focused on learning pickup may
think that collecting women is some sort of holy grail of
success, it's actually NOT any measure of true success at all, if
you're all about bringing high quality women in your life.

As crazy and counter-intuitive as it sounds, guys who are genuinely
skilled with women know better than to string along too many women
at once.

What's up with that?

Simply put, if you or I or any other guy has a dozen or more women
who are waiting to go out with him, we'd have to go on at least one
date every day for twelve consecutive days in order to get around
to actually seeing them all.

That's with no breaks.
 
What's more, don't kid yourself: if you're even remotely
interested in dating any high quality woman at all, you'd better
see her more often than once every twelve freaking days if you want
to keep doing so.

That's just the logistical law of the jungle.  Otherwise, she's
going to get the message FAST that you aren't all that interested,
regardless of what your reality is.

Then, on top of all else, there's this.  When you've got that
many women hanging around in your inbox, you're going to soon
realize that you've got favorites.

That's right.  Out of the double-digit number of women you've
agreed to see again, you're going to actually prefer a subset of
them over the rest.
 
When push comes to shove, you'd rather call one of those women than
the others.  And you will.

On top of that, if you've got about four or five women in your
"preferred" group, you'll probably find that one of them is always
available for you to hang out with.

By now you can see where I'm going with this.  

No man of REAL character who has REAL skill with women is literally
"dating" sixteen women.

That's not because he can't arrange to have 16 women in his life,
but rather because it's a logistical impossibility to see them
all.

Well, at least unless he'd like to have his life completely dominated
by forced dates with women he'd rather not even be with.

And I haven't even mentioned the baseline fact that leaving all
among the "second tier" of non-preferred women hanging is not
exactly an ethical thing to do, either.

So then, what in the world would cause a guy to get excited about a
newfound ability to "collect" women, at least for a short while?

It's simple.  It's because he suddenly realized that he CAN.

Whenever any of us has gone a long time without really attracting
women, once we start actually seeing positive results of our
efforts it's a perfectly reasonable matter of human nature to feel
like a kid in a candy store.

We'll feel like we want to play "catch up" and date ALL the women
we can as soon as possible.

We'll want a blonde one, a brunette one and a redhead.  

We'll want to hang out with a former gymnast with a spunky
personality one day and a tall, leggy sophisticated woman the next.

If the "sickness" gets particularly intense, we may actually still
obsess over the one or two women who we can't seem to get to go out
with us even in the face of having lots of other women we kind of
like waiting by the phone for us to call.

I'm telling you, it can get ridiculous.

But once we inevitably burn out from that kind of schedule and/or
get enough angry voicemails from women we've made empty promises
to, we'll be done trifling with the complicated and counter-
productive existence commonly associated with our "collecting" phase.

Mark my words.

Both our curiosity and our ego will be satisfied, and then we can
finally get on with the business of dating as many women who we
really like as we can reasonably handle, all the while raising the
bar as necessary and appropriate.

For most guys I've ever met who were good with women, that number
is somewhere between three and six.  For me it was five.

And that's a FAR, FAR better way to go.

Yes...you can absolutely, positively date multiple women while you
evaluate what it is you really want from a long-term relationship.
 
But as always wisdom, maturity and character drive a "big four"
man's thoughts and actions.

Handle your dating life the right way and you'll actually see
quality prevail over quantity before your very eyes.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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