[X&Y] This Guy Is In Deep Trouble (Reader Question)

Published: Tue, 09/15/20


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WHAT'S INSIDE:  When something isn't working with women, some
guys do TWICE as much of it...hoping it will work.  "Hope" is
not a strategy.

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THIS MAKES HER WANT TO GET CLOSE


There's nothing better in this life than having beautiful, sexy
women wanting to be "up close and personal" with you.

If they barely know you, that's one thing.  (And that certainly
doesn't suck.)

But what about a woman who's already your "significant other"?

What if you could wake up her wild side...on demand?

Well, wait until you hear THIS.

If you've been reading this newsletter for a while, you already
know the weird (but kind of hilarious) story about how I got to
know Dr. Virgil Amend.

Virgil is the man behind the now notorious Pheromone Advantage.

For my first seven years as a dating coach I flatly rebuffed the
dozens of overtures from companies making wearable pheromones for
guys.

In my mind it was pure snake oil.  I mean, it HAD to be...right?  How
could that stuff possibly work?

But after solemn recommendations from several people I respect, I
got on the phone with Virgil.  He turned out to be a completely
reasonable guy, answering EVERY pointed question I could come
up with.

He even overnighted me a bottle of his "mad scientist" potion.

That got my attention.  This guy wasn't only unafraid to let me try
his stuff, he WANTED me to.

The rest is history.  I got results.  Emily's son David got
results.  It was CRAZY...and I ate all of my words spoken in the past
about pheromones.

Well, check it out.  I had some Pheromone Advantage left, so the
other night I decided to run a little "experiment". 

Who knows why I didn't think of this before, but check it out...
I wore it to bed.

Holy wow.  I don't want to embarrass Emily here, but let's just
say I felt like somebody had unleashed a Bengal Tiger under my
sheets.

It started out with a deliberate but subtle snuggle.  Then a bit of
late night playfulness (e.g. "rawr"). 

And THEN it all degenerated into mayhem too explicit to talk about
here.

And seven hours later?  Let's just say I didn't need an alarm
clock.  "Morning surprises" don't get any better.

I've already revealed too much.

Here it is:  If you have a girlfriend (or wife) who you want to suddenly
become a little "friskier", I HIGHLY RECOMMEND getting science on
your side.

You've just got to try this, like I did:



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When I first introduced you to Dr. Virgil Amend long ago, I knew
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But since then the testimonials have been pouring in.  Several on
Virgil's site these days are actually from YOU guys.

By now we all know how well it works with women you interact with
when you're out and about.

Pheromone Advantage doesn't replace being a "big four" man, but
it sure wakes up a woman's feminine side.

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READER QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS


Hi Scot,

Thank you very much for all your e-mails on dating. But I was a bit
too late to read them because I had already lost the girl that I
loved.

I chased her (she even told me beforehand not to chase her) and
preached to her.

Maybe this was my mistake, even if it wasn't I don't have much money,
(I'm on social security and have a very small check, and I walk with
two canes although by next spring I may be able to walk without
canes).
    
This lady was my therapist, and I loved her deeply. Even though I
was never able to date her once.

I wrote her five love letters and gave them to her at work. She
would not freely give me her address, yet it's in the phone book.

On her last week at work I asked her for her address because I said
that I wanted to send her a gift. She said keep your money.

And there was another day that she said don't write me no more.
Yet this women is a lot like me.

We have so many similarities and like personalities. When I was
around her I felt so good and was happy. I could make her laugh
easily too.
    
Do I still have a chance with her, or have I "pulverized her" as
another lady therapist told me?

She likes her church very much. It's nondenominational and I'm
Baptist. And she read one of my sermons that I wrote which attacked
her bible. She could not read further.  

Wow...! Have I lost her? Can I write her another letter, and send her
chocolate and roses?

I had told her that I was going to get her diamond earrings for
Christmas and she said that if I did she would not accept them. Or
was it my walking abilities that she can't deal with?  

When I get discharged from therapy I will look for a full time job
because I will need more money to make her feel more secure.

Maybe money is the issue, and not my disability. I've had two neck
surgeries, and don't drive. Yet my neck rotation I feel is good
enough to drive next year.  

I will see my neurosurgeon in January. Well Scot, am I in any
condition for love?
        
I haven't dated in years. I'm 54 years old, and she's 40. I've had
sex only once, when I was 18.

She was once engaged to a wounded soldier, and then told me that
she fooled around. I told her that I understand what she did, and
that I was still interested in her. I hope that she gives me
another chance.

                                                   
Sincerely Yours,
                                                    
Harrison  (Cheyenne, WY)



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Hello Harrison.  Thanks for writing.

Wow, man.  I don't know where to start.

Wait a minute...yes I do.

I'm getting more and more e-mails like yours, so I'm sensing
that I should cover some of the fundamentals a bit here.

You know, just to make sure guys like you (and others who may
be reading) have some baseline stuff down before we get into
anything else more advanced.

So here it is, my good man.  I've got to tell it to you like it is.

If chasing her profusely and trying to buy her affection wasn't
enough to permanently deep-six your chances with this woman (or ANY
woman, for that matter), you added fuel to the crash-and-burn when
you thumped her overall worldview over the head in a judgmental
manner.  

I mean, if you can only date Baptists who believe as you do, then
that's all good.  I can respect that.  So be it.   

But please don't punish this poor woman for not meeting your
standards even as you are haranguing her for a date non-stop.
That's just bizarre.  

It's especially so when coupled with the fact that she has an
admitted history of cheating, but you can overlook that.

All of this is really beside the point though.  

For what it's worth, so is your injury and so is your financial
situation.

Those are limiting beliefs that I can cite example after example of
guys overcoming successfully.

The heart of the issue here is this:  Did you really think that
pouring out such a lugubrious display of childlike puppy-love
punctuated by a frighteningly reckless desire to attempt to buy
her affection--followed by a summary indictment of her core
belief system--was going to go well for you here?
 
She's a grown woman who, like other women, is most likely attracted
to a man who she perceives to have options...and who knows how to
interpret his world effectively and make solid decisions.

The problem here is that what you have done hasn't worked, and your
apparent solution is to do twice as much of it.  

This is the "management style" that has tanked major telecom
companies, Internet start-ups, automakers, airlines and banking
institutions all over the world.

It looks to me like you are doing what you've always done, hoping
things will somehow turn out differently.

And as business author Rick Page said so eloquently, "hope is NOT a
strategy".

When something isn't working, you've got to find a new plan.

And more importantly, when a woman tells you clearly and
specifically that she is not interested, you've got to seek your
fortune elsewhere.  

There is no such thing as "another chance" with this woman because
there was no such thing as the FIRST chance.

I mean, she wasn't exactly giggling and playing with her hair even
as she coquettishly purred, "Well, I don't know..."

This woman has told you in no uncertain terms to leave her alone.
She's even got her coworkers in on trying to get you to BACK OFF.

Do you realize that she probably dreads seeing you as a customer at
this point?  

Sure, she may force a smile and be nice to you, but you are
creeping her out every time you show up...followed invariably by
frustrating her to no end.

Is that how you want to be perceived by women?  

And is YOUR perception that those women are perceiving you
differently than I am suggesting?

If you cannot see that, you're going to have to trust me on this one.

You mentioned that you make her laugh easily.  Is she being playful
and fun or is she laughing nervously as she shakes her head?

OK...enough "tough love".  But man, in order to to take the first
step you've got to see the forest for the trees here from a social
perspective.
 
And in order to get this right from now on, that FIRST step is going
to be to work on your self-confidence and self-esteem.
 
You've got more excuses than a teenage boy in the girls' locker room,
and your efforts are about equally as futile as a result.

Until you are okay with who you are, you cannot expect a woman to
be either.  Remember always:  Women follow your lead.

To some degree, the fact that you are in physical therapy and the
woman you like is assigned as your therapist puts you naturally
subject to her lead from the start, which is a disadvantage.

But it becomes an insurmountable one when you feel you must buy
and/or otherwise beg for a woman's romantic attention because
you don't believe that YOU are good enough to attract her on
your own merits.

By the way, where was the money for the diamond earrings going to
come from?  Were you going to mortgage your future in some way in
an attempt to "buy" this woman's favor?

Please tell me you were kidding about that one.

Once you believe you are a man worth pursuing, you will stop
chasing and begin seeking to make women's days brighter as a
masculine, confident man without going for the "hard sell" up
front.  The latter only makes you look desperate and needy.

And it's a heck of a lost more costly--in terms of time, energy,
frustration AND dollars.

Give women time to recognize what you should already know at that
point:  that you are a man of high value who deserves a great
woman.  Then you will have no problem.

But first, you've got to make sure you deserve what you want.  

This particular opportunity is a NON-opportunity, I'm afraid, but
NOW is the time to change your fortunes going forward.  

You do this by leading.  Lead by becoming the man who represents
the "big four" (masculinity, confidence, ability to inspire a sense
of safety/security, and character).  

Put aside the need to try to impress her and/or buy her stuff. And
by all means resist the urge to make this woman your very life
purpose.  

That part about getting a new job just to make her comfortable
scared the heck outta ME...and I'm not even the object of your
affection.

Someday, after A LOT of water has passed under the bridge, she may
be naturally impressed if you can be a "Big Four" guy.  Then you
may get a "Mulligan".

But don't bet the farm on that (or mortgage it for diamond earrings).  

Women are human beings just like you and me, and you've really dug
a deep hole for yourself here.

So work on the "big four" for the time being, and sooner than later
women will respond much more positively to you.

I promise.  You only can go up from here, right?


Be Good,

Scot McKay



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OK, I'm going to lay it on the line here in a way you seldom see me
do in a newsletter.

Some of you guys out there are letting days, weeks, months and
years slip away.

I have a mountain of e-mails from guys (some in their forties or
fifties) who have been making the same mistakes with women for
decades.

They tell me they want things to change.  They tell me they want to
get better with women.

And when I answer their e-mails or talk to them on the phone, it's
with startling predictability that I soon discover these guys are
unwilling to sacrifice the comfort of the status quo in favor of
doing anything about it.

When all is said and done, A LOT more is being SAID than DONE.

If you write me and want to see results, you can expect me to be
dedicated to helping you achieve those results.

Otherwise, if you're really more comfortable with being all alone
without the company of women in your life, don't play games with
yourself pretending to want change.

So my challenge tonight is for those of you who actually want to
start seeing REAL success with women.

I don't care if you are a 75 year-old virgin.  You can GET results
if you WANT results.

Then again, you may be more like the guy I talked to on Friday who
has been with more women than he can count, partied at the Playboy
Mansion and was actually hired by clubs to sit on premise and chat
up women (I'm not making this up).
 
THAT guy hired me because what he really wants is one great woman
in his life.

Whoever you are, you already know what "success with women" means
to you.
 
You also know I've got what it takes to stand in the gap with you and
coach you to success.  So send me an email:


 
scot@deservewhatyouwant.com



Or get on my schedule here to talk about it:



https://www.scotmckay.net/schedule



You can put me to work for you, or you can stick with the "status
quo".

What's more painful?  A future that looks just like the past, or
actually standing up and doing something about it?


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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