[X&Y] First Meetings Vs. First Dates

Published: Sat, 10/03/20



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WHAT'S INSIDE:  What is the REAL advantage to "first meetings" vs.
"first dates"?

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"WHAT QUESTIONS DO I ASK HER?"


I'm getting TONS of questions from you guys about how to make
conversation with women on dates, and how to make sure to
avoid those painful "awkward silences".

Well, as fortune would have it there's a great (and
inexpensive) resource book out there that gives you some
SERIOUS AMMO with which to combat that particular problem.

It's from none other than the world's top romance expert
Michael Webb, and it quite literally GIVES you a massive
stash of GREAT conversation starters.

It doesn't matter whether you are on a first date or wanting
to take things to the "next level" with a woman you're just
starting to get to know:
 

 
Questions To Ask Women



Mike's been featured in practically every major magazine and
newspaper.  He has appeared on over 500 TV and radio shows and
has 18 books to his credit.

But that is not what REALLY amazes me.  It's that Michael and
his wife have been blissfully married for over 20 years
and have never even had a fight.  And its not just pure dumb
luck.  

When it comes to relationships, this guy knows his stuff.

Since we're friends he recently provided me with a copy of his
other BRAND NEW book 500 Intimate Questions For Couples.  

You can check THAT one out here:


 
More Intimate Questions For Couples
 


This book, like the other I just introduced you to, gives you
a WHOLE BUNCH of great conversations starters.  

BUT...this one is geared more toward helping you strengthen
your relationship with a woman you've known for quite a while.

(Sounds like a great "sequel" to the other one, right?)

These questions are guaranteed to:



  * Deepen the intimacy in ANY relationship


  * Confirm whether or not you and your potential future mate
  are sexually and emotionally compatible


  * Spark some highly erotic conversations, followed by intensely
  passionate physical time together



Right now, Michael is offering a one-time special that goes
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This offer expires VERY soon.  You'll just have to see it to
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More Intimate Questions For Couples
 


P.S. YES...these books are designed for a co-ed audience.  Women
love 'em, as you can see from the testimonials and magazine
features.

OK, now it's time to share a couple of letters from women with you...



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THE ADVANTAGES OF FIRST MEETINGS VS. FIRST DATES


Assuming there ARE differences between a "first meeting" and a
"first date", what are they?

For all intents and purposes here, we'll treat the term "first
date" as referring to an event where both the man and the woman
KNOW they're there because they're romantically involved.

A "first meeting", on the other hand, is a meeting between a man
and a woman where the "romantic intent" is still undecided, or at
the very least hasn't been verbally clarified yet.

So in other words, if you ask out someone who you work with or who
is in one of your college classes, it's safe not to kid yourself--she's
going to know you're interested in her, and you can pretty much
guess she's at least potentially interested in you.

After all, you've already MET each other before.

But if you've been e-mailing some chick online back and forth and
finally pull the trigger on seeing what she's like in person, THAT
get-together would be a "first meeting".

In that case you're actually MEETING for the FIRST time.

Fair enough?

Okay, then.

On the surface, you might imagine that it would universally ROCK to
be on a "first date" rather than a "first meeting".  After all, the
"intentions" are out on the table.

But not so fast. 

Here are two compelling reasons why "first meetings" might result
in GREATER OVERALL DATING SUCCESS because, perhaps ironically,
they can actually lead to BETTER "first dates":


 
1)  You Create An Extra Level Of Anticipatory Energy


Sure, someone you've never met before could have completely
misrepresented herself, resulting in an awkward situation when
you're finally face-to-face.

But let's assume things go well.

Because you had never met the woman before, you correctly planned a
brief, inexpensive meeting just to pre-evaluate each other.

You know, a morning rendezvous at Starbucks for 30 minutes before
you both had to go to work, for example.

Short and sweet...with a hard stop.

Since things went well, you KNOW already that there's attraction.
When you say you want to see her again and she agrees, you've
immediately got something to LOOK FORWARD TO.

And compared to the situation when two people who've KNOWN each
other for a while (or even a little while, for that matter) go on a
"first date", this is ALL BRAND NEW.

The particularly intense "anticipatory energy" that ensues all but
ensures that your actual "first date" will be practically ELECTRIC.

She'll be like a little kid at Christmastime counting down the
minutes.

That doesn't suck.


 
2)  The Pressure Is Off The Table


OK, here's where the "ninja genius" of going on a "first date"
AFTER going through the motions of a "first meeting" really grabs a
hold of your collar and shakes you.

Check it out.  Since you've ALREADY agreed to see each other again,
you KNOW there's some mutual attraction there.

As such, the dreaded "first date pressure" is completely in the
rear-view mirror (or should be, at least).

You can actually plan something somewhat "date-ish" (e.g. ice
skating, not "Morton's - The Steakhouse") with confidence, pretty
much assured that a TOTAL disaster is likely not looming ahead.

Oh, and by the way...psychologically, such a "first date" will FEEL
like a "second date".    It's as if the whole "first date" ritual
was BYPASSED completely.

This means, among other things, that if she doesn't usually "kiss
on the first date", she might kiss you on THIS one after all.  Get
the idea?



So let's sum this up. 

When you go out with someone you know socially already, you've got
to make sure you get all aspects of a full-on "first date" down
pat.  That can involve a lot of pressure...if you let it.

But when you DON'T know someone very well, you should have a "get
to know you meeting" first.  In that context, brevity and the low
cost factor aren't only acceptable, they're EXPECTED.

So in that "first meeting" scenario, you get the uncomfortable
(i.e. bad) aspects usually associated with a "first date" out of
the way QUICKLY and WITHOUT HASSLE.

Then, you're ACTUAL "first date" with that person is highly
anticipated but pressure-free (i.e. good).  Let the "fireworks"
begin.

Outstanding.  Chalk one up for online dating.


 
 



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