[X&Y] You Did Everything Right...But She's "Not Feeling It"
Published: Mon, 11/23/20
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IN THIS EDITION: It's true that causing a woman to feel comfortable
and secure in your presence is crucial to success. But can you be
TOO "safe"?
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APPROACH ANXIETY AND AWKWARD SILENCES?
Have you ever saw a woman who stopped you in your tracks?
You wanted to meet her. You HAD to meet her.
But somehow...you DIDN'T meet her.
Maybe it was because you'd feel like you were bothering her.
Or perhaps it was because you just didn't know what would
happen. Would she like you back, or would she reject you...
resulting in the dreaded "walk of shame"?
And what if you DID talk to her, but suddenly the conversation
dried up...leading to a brutal awkward silence?
Man, most of us can relate to every bit of this.
But if you can finally conquer what's holding you back once
and for all, you'll start doing what most other guys literally shy
away from.
You'll boldly approach women, effortlessly start conversation
with them and make them WANT you.
You can even get to the point where you make a lifestyle
of it. Approaching women becomes automatic...without
any fear whatsoever.
Consider how little competition you'd have if you really, actually
DID what so few guys can?
The Man's Approach gives you practical, step-by-step
guidance on how to do everything you need to do...starting with
the most compelling way you've ever seen to get over
"approach anxiety".
From there, I give you a complete plan of action. Don't worry,
it's dead-simple and you don't even have to memorize anything:
50% Off The Man's Approach, Plus Female Persuasion FREE
For the next 48 hours, I've reactivated that special page with a
50% off coupon already embedded. You'll see the savings
appear automatically at checkout.
AND...I'm also giving you the #1 program out there on how to
make women LOVE you and want more of you. That's Female
Persuasion, of course...in which you'll find all the secrets guys
pay thousands to see first-hand during Ten-Plus Live in-field
coaching weekends:
50% Off The Man's Approach, Plus Female Persuasion FREE
So why kick yourself for "failing to deploy" ever again? Think
about how exhilarating it'll be to finally have the kind of woman
you really want...all because you stepped up and met her.
=====
YOU DID EVERYTHING RIGHT...BUT SHE'S "NOT FEELING IT"
One of the "big four" factors that really matter to high quality
women is what I refer to as "the ability to inspire confidence".
Essentially, this means that assuming you can create attraction
with a masculine, confident presence the next step is to make a
woman feel safe and secure in your presence.
When a woman who is already attracted to you begins to trust you,
then you can begin to establish an ongoing relationship on solid
ground.
When her fear goes away, then she feels free to act on her feminine
attraction to you.
Conversely, if she senses she's potentially in any kind of physical
danger when you're around, gets a negative vibe from you or is
"creeped out" in any way you'll get nowhere with her.
And that's a fact.
So yes, you've got to give a woman a sense of security in your
presence. She has to know that you represent protection and
goodwill rather than the opposite.
But there's a plot complication.
Providing security to a woman (or inspiring confidence, if you
will) is very different than being "safe".
Understanding this is an extraordinarily important component to your
overall success with women, yet I can't recall ever seeing the topic
discussed elsewhere.
Here's what I mean.
A woman doesn't want to feel as if she is physically endangered at
any time, but she does crave a man who can bring a sense of
adventure and excitement to her life. Without the latter, she's
bored to tears.
Similarly, she doesn't want to be "controlled" in a manipulative
manner, but she does want a man who is an assertive leader. And
without the latter, she'll lose respect for you.
Additionally, you can't become utterly predictable, stuck in a
rut of doing the same things over and over again. Yet, you most
certainly can't be irrationally compulsive either...that's just scary.
Yes, you've got to know how to differentiate all of this, which
isn't always so easy to do.
As guys, the vast majority of us miss the mark insofar as how
we represent ourselves to women.
For example, we may fail to recognize that women are generally
compelled to consider their personal safety when on a date with
a man, whereas we seldom are concerned with such.
It's not that we're violent "bad guys", it's simply a matter of fact
that most men can overpower most women. Women are naturally
very aware of this.
So the more we can do to take that preoccupation off the table for
them, the better. But some guys just can't connect the dots, and
blindly wonder why women keep pulling a disappearing act on them
sooner than later.
In some cases, it's simply because we didn't make her feel secure
in our presence.
For example, it's a good idea not to crowd a woman's space when
you first meet her. Avoid jokes about killing people. Don't gesture
with your hands full while cleaning loaded firearms at the dining
room table. Stuff like that.
Fair enough.
But most guys, I'd contend, are actually on the opposite side of
the spectrum.
We're too "safe".
Again...to be clear, I'm not saying you should become flat-out
dangerous. I'm talking about something completely different here.
We avoid disagreeing with her opinions. We dare not even try so
much as to hold her hand even when she's laughing, playfully
hitting us on the shoulder and staring at our lips in anticipation.
And, ironically, it's precisely because we're hypersensitive to
"scaring women" that we end up this way. We don't want to "impose
on them", so we chalk up our Failure To Deploy as "being a
gentleman".
Meanwhile, there's a woman somewhere who wanted to be kissed
and went home feeling frustrated or even rejected.
Worse, because we rarely leave the basement ourselves once we
come home from our jobs at Cubicle City, the most "adventurous"
activity we can come up with when we're with her is the same trip to
Chili's or Applebee's followed by crashing on the couch chilling with
Netflix...again.
Taking the "safe" option is not adding value to a woman's self-
perceived boring life, is it?
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IN THIS EDITION: It's true that causing a woman to feel comfortable
and secure in your presence is crucial to success. But can you be
TOO "safe"?
=====
APPROACH ANXIETY AND AWKWARD SILENCES?
Have you ever saw a woman who stopped you in your tracks?
You wanted to meet her. You HAD to meet her.
But somehow...you DIDN'T meet her.
Maybe it was because you'd feel like you were bothering her.
Or perhaps it was because you just didn't know what would
happen. Would she like you back, or would she reject you...
resulting in the dreaded "walk of shame"?
And what if you DID talk to her, but suddenly the conversation
dried up...leading to a brutal awkward silence?
Man, most of us can relate to every bit of this.
But if you can finally conquer what's holding you back once
and for all, you'll start doing what most other guys literally shy
away from.
You'll boldly approach women, effortlessly start conversation
with them and make them WANT you.
You can even get to the point where you make a lifestyle
of it. Approaching women becomes automatic...without
any fear whatsoever.
Consider how little competition you'd have if you really, actually
DID what so few guys can?
The Man's Approach gives you practical, step-by-step
guidance on how to do everything you need to do...starting with
the most compelling way you've ever seen to get over
"approach anxiety".
From there, I give you a complete plan of action. Don't worry,
it's dead-simple and you don't even have to memorize anything:
50% Off The Man's Approach, Plus Female Persuasion FREE
For the next 48 hours, I've reactivated that special page with a
50% off coupon already embedded. You'll see the savings
appear automatically at checkout.
AND...I'm also giving you the #1 program out there on how to
make women LOVE you and want more of you. That's Female
Persuasion, of course...in which you'll find all the secrets guys
pay thousands to see first-hand during Ten-Plus Live in-field
coaching weekends:
50% Off The Man's Approach, Plus Female Persuasion FREE
So why kick yourself for "failing to deploy" ever again? Think
about how exhilarating it'll be to finally have the kind of woman
you really want...all because you stepped up and met her.
=====
YOU DID EVERYTHING RIGHT...BUT SHE'S "NOT FEELING IT"
One of the "big four" factors that really matter to high quality
women is what I refer to as "the ability to inspire confidence".
Essentially, this means that assuming you can create attraction
with a masculine, confident presence the next step is to make a
woman feel safe and secure in your presence.
When a woman who is already attracted to you begins to trust you,
then you can begin to establish an ongoing relationship on solid
ground.
When her fear goes away, then she feels free to act on her feminine
attraction to you.
Conversely, if she senses she's potentially in any kind of physical
danger when you're around, gets a negative vibe from you or is
"creeped out" in any way you'll get nowhere with her.
And that's a fact.
So yes, you've got to give a woman a sense of security in your
presence. She has to know that you represent protection and
goodwill rather than the opposite.
But there's a plot complication.
Providing security to a woman (or inspiring confidence, if you
will) is very different than being "safe".
Understanding this is an extraordinarily important component to your
overall success with women, yet I can't recall ever seeing the topic
discussed elsewhere.
Here's what I mean.
A woman doesn't want to feel as if she is physically endangered at
any time, but she does crave a man who can bring a sense of
adventure and excitement to her life. Without the latter, she's
bored to tears.
Similarly, she doesn't want to be "controlled" in a manipulative
manner, but she does want a man who is an assertive leader. And
without the latter, she'll lose respect for you.
Additionally, you can't become utterly predictable, stuck in a
rut of doing the same things over and over again. Yet, you most
certainly can't be irrationally compulsive either...that's just scary.
Yes, you've got to know how to differentiate all of this, which
isn't always so easy to do.
As guys, the vast majority of us miss the mark insofar as how
we represent ourselves to women.
For example, we may fail to recognize that women are generally
compelled to consider their personal safety when on a date with
a man, whereas we seldom are concerned with such.
It's not that we're violent "bad guys", it's simply a matter of fact
that most men can overpower most women. Women are naturally
very aware of this.
So the more we can do to take that preoccupation off the table for
them, the better. But some guys just can't connect the dots, and
blindly wonder why women keep pulling a disappearing act on them
sooner than later.
In some cases, it's simply because we didn't make her feel secure
in our presence.
For example, it's a good idea not to crowd a woman's space when
you first meet her. Avoid jokes about killing people. Don't gesture
with your hands full while cleaning loaded firearms at the dining
room table. Stuff like that.
Fair enough.
But most guys, I'd contend, are actually on the opposite side of
the spectrum.
We're too "safe".
Again...to be clear, I'm not saying you should become flat-out
dangerous. I'm talking about something completely different here.
We avoid disagreeing with her opinions. We dare not even try so
much as to hold her hand even when she's laughing, playfully
hitting us on the shoulder and staring at our lips in anticipation.
And, ironically, it's precisely because we're hypersensitive to
"scaring women" that we end up this way. We don't want to "impose
on them", so we chalk up our Failure To Deploy as "being a
gentleman".
Meanwhile, there's a woman somewhere who wanted to be kissed
and went home feeling frustrated or even rejected.
Worse, because we rarely leave the basement ourselves once we
come home from our jobs at Cubicle City, the most "adventurous"
activity we can come up with when we're with her is the same trip to
Chili's or Applebee's followed by crashing on the couch chilling with
Netflix...again.
Taking the "safe" option is not adding value to a woman's self-
perceived boring life, is it?
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2020. All Rights Reserved.
If you find this newsletter as powerful and life-changing as over
61,000 other people do, why not forward it to a friend who could
benefit from it as well?
Help build this worldwide movement of men reclaiming their
masculinity, standing as a positive role model and deserving the
high quality women we want.
Rise Above And Be Invincible
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