[X&Y] About Tomorrow Night

Published: Wed, 12/30/20

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ABOUT TOMORROW NIGHT

For years, I’ve written to you in late December
about all sorts of cool tips to make New Year’s
Eve a total blast.

You know, how to make a great party happen.

How to meet lots of women while you’re out
on the town.

I’ve even encouraged you with lurid stories of
Trafalgar Square and foreign exchange students
in Moscow.

Yeah, whatever. 2020 is different, and I’m here
to acknowledge that.

The first question I want to ask you is, can YOU
acknowledge that?

Over the past week or so I’ve talked to lots of
you guys who, when you get right down to it,
are feeling sorry for yourselves regarding New
Year’s Eve.

Depressed, even.

I get it. When the so-called “plan” is to be home
alone—or worse—all sorts of negative self-talk
can sneak up on you.

But here it is…almost NOBODY will experience
a “normal” NYE celebration tomorrow night.

You are NOT alone. Virtually EVERYONE is in
the same boat.

But true to form for our default mindset as men,
we all seem to be feeling as if we’re the only
one not meeting women and crushing it out
there.

The most sober realization (perhaps literally) will
only hit us when we watch the ball drop on
Times Square at midnight, witnessing for
ourselves how there is nobody there in person
to see it happen.

Hey, if you have tickets to some big dinner gig
with live music and what not tomorrow, great.

But the vast, vast majority of us will simply not
have that option available to us.

And if you are squarely within the majority,
there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not some
kind of “loser”.

It’s about 2020, NOT you personally.

That brings me to the second question I have
for you.

What are you going to do about it?

Look, I don’t want to pile on the pressure. If you
would just as soon sit home and watch an action
flick or two than try to manufacture some faux
“celebration” out of a twisted sense of obligation,
that’s fine.

Truth be told, I actually applaud that. Give
yourself a gold star for having the self-awareness
and self-esteem to call your own shot.

After all, 2020 is a unique fluke of a year. This
too shall pass.

But that said, what if you WANT to do something
else? What are the options?

Well, here are some uniquely 2020 thoughts on
the matter:

1) Hit The Online Dating Sites

In past years, I’ve cautioned against showing up
on Match or Zoosk on weekend nights or holidays
because of the appearance of social desperation.

But since there’s nowhere to go, why pretend there
is?

When you log in to your online dating site of
choice tomorrow night, you’ll be SHOCKED and
AMAZED by the number of attractive women who
will be on there as well.

They’ll have two things in common with you already.

First, they’ll be equally bummed there’s nothing to
do and nowhere to go.

Second, like you they’ll have enough self-esteem
to SHOW up.

Talk to them. They’ll be glad you did, and so will
you.

2) Get Over Your Limiting Belief About
Attractive Women's Lifestyles

Nope. They’re not all somehow defying the
Governor’s orders out there partying with playboys
and billionaires.

They’re at home ordering “social distanced” pizza,
also. The rules apply to everyone, and sexy women
don’t have a special exemption. Like other men,
they too are in the same boat as you.

3) Call A Female Friend TODAY And Lead

Now see, it’s precisely the limiting beliefs described
above that might create enough “false pride” to keep
you from calling that certain woman you know and
admitting to each other that you both have nothing
to do.

If there’s any woman at all in your life who you’ve
spent time with before and who you sense would be
open to it again, call her and float the option for
tomorrow night.

Granted, you have to weigh COVID risks. All
standard disclaimers apply. But if it’s a “go”, roll
sushi together or make a big pot of chili if it’s cold
outside.

Get a bottle of sparkling Moscato.

Be 100% prepared to Massage Your Date at the
close of such a stressful 2020. You could do a lot
worse on such a night:

https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/myd

If you’re not open to keeping each other company
indoors and in-person, go for a walk outside if the
weather where you are permits it.

Blast off fireworks if that’s a thing where you live.

You can even get on Zoom and watch Ryan
Seacrest together virtually for all she cares.

But do SOMETHING together. A silly comedy
movie on Netflix wouldn’t be a bad idea.

4) Get A Head Start On 2021

Does all of this make you feel like avoiding people
altogether? I don’t blame you. That’s okay as
well.

Use tomorrow night to finally make a move on
something you’ve been meaning to learn more
about and/or get involved in. Make it count.

So there you have it, unique suggestions for
unique circumstances.

My sincere hope and trust is we’ll be able to
get back to more typical New Year’s suggestions
next year.

#2021Foresight

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