[X&Y] How To Plan A First Date That Will Blow Her Away
Published: Wed, 01/20/21
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IN THIS EDITION: You've asked her out. At a loss for where to
take her?
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HOW TO PLAN A FIRST DATE THAT WILL BLOW HER AWAY
I've been getting e-mails from some of you who are starting to get
women's numbers.
Others of you have reported writing e-mails to women online and
getting the desired results.
What follows logically are first dates...or "first meetings", as I prefer
to call them.
Labeling time spent with a woman for the first time a "date" tends
to turn the event into a real pressure cooker, and the first step is
always to keep things casual.
The important thing is to evaluate whether the two of you even get
along, especially if you're meeting someone you've been talking to
online.
But that doesn't stop us as guys from trying to impress a woman on
a first date, does it?
For the record, I remain convinced that "trying to impress a woman"
in it's most baseline form is NOT a good idea. The keyword being
"trying". When a woman senses you are overtly attempting to amaze
her, you've already lost half the battle.
Trying too hard = needy and desperate. That's all there is to it.
But here's the part that gets lost in translation.
You...um...kind of DO want her to be impressed with you, don't you?
Darn skippy.
If she isn't, then you're going nowhere. Fast.
In a sense, it's kind of like being cool. The more effortless it is, the
more likely it is to succeed.
And that's the part guys are asking me about a lot lately. They're
starting to get the opportunities with women they've always wanted,
and they don't want to ruin things.
So then, how exactly is a guy supposed to impress her without
trying to impress her?
Well, most of what you have read out there has likely either been
about how to be a "natural" (while assuming such on your part), or
rather how to "Frankenstein" a bunch of steps together to help you
replicate being "natural".
Well, here's a novel concept. How about fine-tuning what may
already be a part of your existing skillset or existing persona so
as to be better with women?
There are about a thousand ways to improve your chances when
meeting a woman for the first time. Let me be clear about that.
But given the constraints of a daily newsletter, today I'm going to
introduce to you a particularly powerful one I'll call "Mind Triggering".
That term probably isn't original to me by any stretch, but it sounds
good and describes what I've got in mind perfectly. So I'm going
with it.
As an added bonus, it also solves the problem of what do DO on
"first meetings".
Here's how it goes.
From now on, every time you are out and around in your metro
area, start actively observing your surroundings in the context of
planning first meetings.
All too often we blindly go from point "A" to point "B" without
really looking around. Even when out socially or in some other
relaxed setting, we tend to absorb ourselves in our immediate
surroundings rather than noting at a deeper level what is around
us.
Chalk it up to being over stimulated or too busy as a society, but
I've noticed that there can be the most amazing sunset of all time
unfolding before our collective eyes, yet almost nobody around
stops to take notice.
So my bet is almost none of us as guys proactively scan our
landscape for great places to take women. Not just restaurants or
clubs, mind you, but anywhere and everywhere.
From now on, start doing that.
But that's the easy part, of course. That's a "no brainer".
Now here's the mindset that takes that simple exercise to a whole new
level
Whenever you spot a cool place, consider what kind of woman would
love it.
And what kind of woman would be amazed that you thought to take her
there?
Start thinking like this, and before you know it (perhaps less than a
week, even) you'll have a serious list of potential places to take women
on "first meetings"...and furthermore, you'll know WHY they're strategic.
Get out a friggin' pen and paper and make a real, actual list if you need
to in order to commit the various options to memory.
Then comes the magical part.
When you get a woman's number or start talking to someone online,
do another obvious but often-overlooked thing and get her talking.
Ask her questions about what she's into. What her dreams are. What
her favorite things are.
You know, what really excites her.
If you've done the first steps I've shared with you above effectively,
what she tells you will start triggering certain spots you've taken note
of in your mind.
Listen and therefore intuit the best dating venues/activities based on
what you've heard.
THEN...when the time comes to suggest that the two of you hang out
together, your plan will be--as if by telepathy--exactly what will amaze
her most.
There will be no planting her in your passenger seat and asking her
what she wants to do.
No chance you'll revert to bragging about your cars, boats, etc.
No drama with regard to "trying to impress" her whatsoever.
Instead, having heard that the greatest trip she ever went on was
to Greece back in college, you'll take her to that hole-in-the-wall
Greek restaurant for lunch.
Or, knowing she was all-state choir in high school, you'll therefore
hit the coolest karaoke bar in town together.
OR, you having figured out she's a "wellspring of useless
information", you'll challenge her to Buzztime electronic trivia where
you know they've got it.
And had she been interested in jazz, tango dancing, Brazil, hookah,
etc, you would have known where to take her instead.
If she played soccer in high school, craved a perfect Long Island
Iced Tea and/or dug rock climbing; you would have known how to
execute the plan.
Get this right and expect mellifluous and/or downright feline
utterances from her to the effect of, "this night was purrrrfect",
"it's like you read my mind", or my personal yardstick by which all
positive "impressions" are measured: "you're AMAZING".
And once you've got that handled, you can actually relax--once and
for all--and get down to assessing the most important question
surrounding your meeting together: Does SHE impress YOU?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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