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IN THIS EDITION:  Which type of
communication should you pay the most
attention to, verbal or non-verbal...or both?

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THE FIRST ONE WHO ISN'T LAME
WINS


Have you ever noticed that every woman
online seems to have the same, boring
profile?

But when one actually comes along that
is different--andthe woman actually seems
INTERESTING--it really grabs your
attention doesn't it?

Well here's the truth.  All of this goes
DOUBLE for your profile as a man.

Women will nearly ALWAYS ignore men
with lame, generic online profiles.

But if you INTRIGUE her, it's ON.

Intrigue = Attention

Unfortunately, hardly anyone is a
Pulitzer Prize winning writer by nature.

And that's okay. 

But it doesn't change how frustrating it
is to experience "writer's block" when
trying to write your online profile.

The only thing MORE frustrating is when
ZERO women write you back.

Well, why not relax and let ME write your
profile for you?

I'll custom craft your Projection Profile to
your exact specifications:



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SHOULD YOU LISTEN TO HER WORDS
OR WATCH HER ACTIONS?


Hi Scot:

I have a specific case that I'd like to have
your advice on and I'll try to make it short

I've known a girl in my workplace for about
4 years. We flirted in the past and we used
to go together for coffee and drinks.

I can say there is attraction from both sides.
However, we didn't have "real dates" and
she dated other guys during the last period
and was in a relationship until recently.

Two weeks ago we went out for a drink
after work. The conversation had a lot of
sexual tension. She was very excited and
interactive.

At the same time she indicated that she
wants to be friends although none of her
behaviour indicated the same.

And when we were leaving and everyone
was supposed to go in a different way, she
asked me, "what do you have now, where
are you headed"?

I totally messed up here. I didn't get it as
a signal that she wanted to go with me. She
even got closer to me as she was giving
me a goodbye kiss but instead I kissed her
on her cheek.

Honestly I only realized that I messed up
a few minutes later. And I think the reason
for that is what she said about "she wants
to be friends" which made me
subconsciously behave like that.

Did I miss anything here? Can I fix this?

I read [elsewhere] that women have a short
attraction window.

If a guy "fails to deploy", the woman would
lose interest. I actually could see how she
was disappointed when we left.

I didn't see her since then because I
travelled and now I am back.

What is the best way to deal with this? I
appreciate your advise.


Thank you,

Ahmad (Toronto, ON)



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Hello Ahmad:

First of all, let's be sure to address this bit:
"I read [elsewhere] that women have a short
attraction window."

Honestly, I have no idea where you guys
get some of this stuff, but it's from people
who have no idea what women are like.

Seriously, if you were to take a look, you'd
note that an incredibly high percentage of
women's dating advice is about how to get
ONE guy who they're crazy about to "stop
messing up" and/or stop sending mixed
messages.

The bottom line is that women are no
different than we are as men in this respect.

If they're attracted, there's really no stopping
them...unless you totally creep or freak
them out somehow.

On the other hand, if they're NOT attracted,
there's really no starting them, if you get
my drift.

In the real world, if a woman adores you
she's unable to get you out of her mind.

You'd seriously have to do something that's
honkin' gross in order to sway her feelings
in the other direction.

And if she doesn't feel attraction for you?

Then that "window" was never really open.

At best, she was being pleasantly tolerant
during any interaction she's had with you.

Fortunately for you, your scenario is the
former rather than the latter.

So what's going on here is that this woman
is indeed attracted to you.

And yes, she's sending some of those cute,
adorable subtle signals that women tend
to send when they're not quite sure you're
so into them yet and they don't want to end
up embarrassing themselves.

You know, those under-the-radar hints
("Where are you headed now?")
punctuated by clearer statements indicating
that they fully realize nothing's really going
on between the two of you yet.

Really, it's all just a "dance".

She is following your leadership, even
though your intentions are either
indiscernible to her and/or she's frustrated
because you're slower than a Yugo with a
broken gearbox.

Therefore she's verbally going along with
what's apparently to her your "just friends"
plan, even though her more subjective (and
they're barely so at this point) signals are
virtually screaming for you to make a bold
move, for once.

If you were to make that bold move, my
edumckayted guess is she would respond
to you with more enthusiasm than a
Porsche 911 with paddle shifters.

All that's left is to make sure that's what
you really want.

That's right.  I said it.

After all, this dinking around with her has
already gone on for four years, boyfriend
or no boyfriend.

You mentioned "sub-conscious behavior"
that's contrary to moving things forward
romantically.

And geez, man...you even gave the poor
girl "the cheek".

It's time to come to grips with the fact that
the idea of a non-platonic relationship with
this woman might not actually appeal to
you, if you dig deep into your conscience
and are honest with yourself.

For starters, if by "in your workplace" you
mean that you're on the same boss man's
payroll, then you've got the always
formidable "pen in the company ink"
problem to consider.

And then there's the simple fact that she
went on "not real dates" with you while
she had a boyfriend.  Is there a sneaking
suspicion in the back of your mind that
she's not trustworthy?

Were you to get into a relationship with
her would she get a little flirty with other
"not real" boyfriends when you're not
around?

I can tell from your letter that you really
already know where you've "failed to
deploy" thus far.

Yet you did it anyway.

So yes...the real question here is one
that only YOU can answer:

What ARE your intentions?

What do you really WANT?

The good news is you are indeed the
chooser in this situation, which is always
the right frame of mind.