[X&Y] The #1 Reason Why Most Guys Are Frustrated With Their Dating Life
Published: Thu, 05/20/21
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IN THIS EDITION: I'm convinced there is one factor that causes
dating frustration.
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IF YOU ARE FRUSTRATED WITH YOUR DATING LIFE, HERE'S WHY
Every day we get phone calls and e-mails from both men and women.
I see that as a major plus because it offers clear insight into how men
and women think about each other.
After fielding thousands of calls and e-mails, I'm convinced there is
one factor that affects every person who calls or writes. It's like a
common thread of DNA.
None of them are in control of their dating lives.
Instead, whoever they are interested in is in full control.
You see, typically a guy will write me and say something like, "Hey
Scot, I got a phone number from a woman, but I called her and she
was completely non-committal about hanging out sometime. How
do I get her to go out with me?"
Or, he may say, "Look Scot, I've got a problem here. I started
dating this woman and it was going well. But then she stopped
returning calls as quickly as she once did. And lately she has been
telling me she's 'super busy' and can't really get together as often.
And now, I texted her four or five times yesterday, but she didn't
answer at all."
The women's version tends to be shockingly similar, even if for some
untold reason the stories themselves are more dramatic and
entertaining.
"Scot, I really like this guy who is 'legally separated'. But he
hasn't filed for divorce and changes the subject whenever I bug him
about it. We were supposed to go out Friday night but he never
called. So I finally called him around 10p and some chick
answered! She was really, really, REALLY mad. What do I do?"
Or...
"Wow Scot, I met this guy online and he lives a couple of hours
away. I don't understand why he can't just take a Saturday
afternoon and meet me half way or something to have lunch. But he
keeps putting it off. How can I get him to be more excited about
meeting me?"
Do you see the pattern there?
Each of the four scenarios above involves someone having put the
object of his or her potential affection in complete, utter control
over the outcome.
The most curious part is the guys who are in such a position
are the same ones who are firmly convinced "women are the
choosers and men are the chasers".
They are the ones who complain that women "can pick up a guy
anytime they want, and we guys have to do all the work".
Meanwhile, every single woman in a similar position expresses
some version of, "How come I have to be the only one who cares
about the relationship all the time? How come I call him and
couldn't be sweeter to him, but he hardly ever calls back? And
when he does, how come he only wants to see me like once a month?"
Yep...you got it. The one in control chooses...man or woman.
And that's precisely why everyone in that "out of control" position
ends up frustrated. They feel powerless, and asking someone like
me "what to do" to is really just a band-aid.
The reality is there's nothing they can do to get inside another
person's mind and work the controls.
At least not directly.
But here's something else I've noticed.
I rarely get calls or e-mails from men or women who view themselves
as having options when it comes to MOTOS (Members Of The Other
Sex).
Sure, some people might start dating several MOTOS at once and
end up having a hard time sorting out their rambunctious social lives.
And at that point they may call me up and ask me how to deal. But
again, that's really just another version (albeit an advanced one) of
not being in control of one's dating life, isn't it?
Granted, that's a "high quality problem", but it's still a twist on
the same basic issue nonetheless. Instead of one person being in
control over another, in this case you have one person being
controlled by the pressures of many on his or her time.
Poor babies, I know.
But it can be frustrating just the same. And that, as I mentioned,
is the premise of this entire discussion.
When you are out of control of your dating life, you are frustrated.
And when you are in control of your dating life, you aren't.
It really couldn't be more simple.
So here's my challenge to you.
If you are obsessing over one person--or worse, if you're obsessing
because there's nobody in your life--I want you to take control
and make the first move towards having real options in your life.
Young people have a distinct advantage over older people who are
dating because they get to "clock in" every day at a "workplace"
where there are no limits on "fraternization" and where everyone is
the same age.
Best of all, except in rare instances, about half of those people
are MOTOS.
That place is school, of course. And what's more, everyone at
school is usually unmarried, right?
It really is a dating bonanza, assuming you have the wherewithal
at a young age to make the most of it.
But youth is wasted on the young, isn't it? Most of us didn't
exactly have dating figured out back in high school.
And the hard truth is that once you graduate, you'll NEVER
experience an opportunity like that EVER again.
But here's the thing.
Within the last fifteen years, something has happened that offers
you a VERY REAL approximation of the way things were at school.
That "something" is online dating.
Where else can you log on and find hundreds of women who are
the right age, in your neighborhood and available?
The correct answer is "nowhere", Sherlock.
The very best way I know of to go from no control to full control over
your dating options is to start filling your life with more women to go
out with.
And even if you work in a cave all day or at Just Men, Inc., you
have the power to get online and make something happen.
I couldn't be more convinced that online dating is the ultimate
solution for dating life frustration.
Of course, you have to know how to make online dating work for
you.
Get it wrong, and you'll just get more frustrated.
But get it right, and you're dating life will be radically changed
for the better almost immediately.
The best news of all? Most guys never bother to find out how to
make online dating work for them.
This means that YOU have a very real opportunity to get all the
women you want, even where others consistently fail.
Life isn't fair. But if it were, that would mean every guy would
have an equal amount of success. What YOU can do is take
every advantage available to you and tip the scales in YOUR
favor.
And that's exactly what I teach you how to do, step-by-step, in
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Be Good,
Scot McKay
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