[X&Y] How To Get What You Want Without Feeling Selfish
Published: Fri, 07/23/21
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IN THIS EDITION: Nobody is going to altruistically bestow wild
success upon us on our behalf, when you get right down to it.
Find out how to get what you want in a way that actually creates
attraction AND promotes admiration.
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INSTANT INTRIGUE...BY DESIGN
Did you know your online profile has ONE purpose?
Here it is: to create INTRIGUE.
If done to perfection, it makes women who read it feel a
deep, almost primal NEED to meet you.
That means MORE meetings with MORE and BETTER
women.
But the problem is maybe one profile in a thousand has
anywhere close to that effect on women.
Most guys write nearly the same boring crap as all the
others.
No intrigue = no joy.
Well, I figured it was time to give YOU that 1-in-1000
online profile women respond powerfully to.
By now I've written custom-crafted versions of the
infamous Projection Profile for lots of men.
The success stories follow. Here's "Kevin in Rhode
Island":
"Maybe you have too many of these quotes/stories already,
but in case you don't...
There was this girl I'd been talking to online for a short time,
but the last time I heard from her was four days ago. It seems
like she wasn't on the same page.
Today, after a four-day gap (I was assuming we weren't
talking anymore), I got this message from her:
'Kevin! I saw your new profile!
I’m stunned. It’s the single, most heartfelt thing I’ve read in the
few months I’ve been here. It’s raw and beautiful and real.
(What in the world are you still doing in this site?!)'
It certainly looks like the new profile had an effect. Thanks!"
but in case you don't...
There was this girl I'd been talking to online for a short time,
but the last time I heard from her was four days ago. It seems
like she wasn't on the same page.
Today, after a four-day gap (I was assuming we weren't
talking anymore), I got this message from her:
'Kevin! I saw your new profile!
I’m stunned. It’s the single, most heartfelt thing I’ve read in the
few months I’ve been here. It’s raw and beautiful and real.
(What in the world are you still doing in this site?!)'
It certainly looks like the new profile had an effect. Thanks!"
What if women were suddenly so curious about you that
they dropped everything, dove on their keyboard
and wrote you back as soon as they caught their breath?
What if your message box was filled with smiley faces and
exclamation points instead of "I'm sorry...we're just not a match"?
The Projection Profile isn't just words on a page. It's a fast-track
ticket to ending all the flaky, ghosting B.S. you've endured online,
getting women to drop everything (including other guys) and focus
only on you.
I've caught up with the initial rush for the moment, so I can write
yours for you:
https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/ppfs
P.S. I'm nearing the point where I might have to suspend orders
for certain metro markets. Right now we're good, but to keep it fair
it's best if there are only 3-5 active Projection Profiles per decent-
sized metro area. Smaller cities I really want to limit to one. While
they're all indeed custom-written, I want to make sure you truly
don't have much, if any competition.
P.P.S. To answer a FAQ, YES...I can write Projection Profiles for
you guys in the UK, Europe and Down Under. It won't sound like
an American wrote it, I promise.
P.P.P.S. There's also a service where I write first emails to ten
women of your choice for you. You can choose that as an option
with your Projection Profile service.
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HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT WITHOUT FEELING SELFISH
I gave serious thought to naming this "The Selfish Man's Guide To
Success With Women". After all, that's really a fitting title.
But the problem is that nobody wants to be cast as "selfish", do
they? Of course not. Yet, the truth is that if you didn't spend
considerable time attending to your own needs and wants, you would
be in no condition to make a philanthropic dent on society, would
you?
Anyone who has ever bought a commercial airline ticket and used it
has heard a flight attendant's pitch to deploy one's own oxygen
mask before assisting the younguns. Oh yeah, and "breathe
normally" while doing so, will you?
Even Mother Theresa was really doing what she most wanted to in
life. And she also fed her own face every once in a while too, I'm
sure.
What I'm getting at here is that I've been hearing a lot from guys
lately who are having a common problem. Essentially, the issue
seems to surround wanting to "not break any rules", "stay socially
acceptable", "fit in with the crowd", and so forth.
And what's happening is that these guys end up standing passively by
while other guys come for the women they have their eye on (or even
the ones they LIVE with).
Yet, they are averse to trying to push the envelope a bit because
that would be too...uh..."forward", or something.
Meanwhile, at that last speed dating event, six of these guys were
probably standing around before things got rolling chit-chatting
amongst themselves about this exact topic while the seventh guy was
already leaving with the one attractive woman who showed up.
Isn't stuff like that against the "speed dating rules of etiquette"?
I mean, how rude and selfish of guys like that to come around and
assert themselves with all the particularly sharp women, huh?
OK, guys...here it is: It's time to stop being a martyr. You're not
being benevolent and unselfish by neglecting to assert your alpha
position in deserving the greatest women.
And guess what, you're not doing any favors for the women you
persist in "settling for" either.
What you ARE doing is failing to deploy.
You're not only keeping your self from success in the name of being
"Mr. Nice Guy", you are stealing opportunity from great women
everywhere.
In your heart, don't you feel a twinge of frustration knowing that
certain fantastic women out there would be better off with you than
the mediocre guys they themselves have been "settling" for lately?
There's no doubt about it in your mind, yet you still refuse to
impose your will.
That would be selfish. Or possibly confused with appearing too
"needy". Or something like that.
Now before you get too animated, you know me well enough by now to
know that I'm not talking about stealing people's spouses or
anything else that's from the "dark side".
It's just that it's time to reframe this notion of what "selfishness"
really means and how it can become a scapegoat for artificially
limiting ourselves.
We all know that manipulation is to be avoided. Most of us
understand that manipulators, by definition, operate purely from a
motive of getting as much of what they want from others with as
little personal investment as possible.
Under the guise of friendship and an umbrella of flattery, the
manipulator guilt-trips an unwitting subject into handing over
personal favors and perhaps even physical items of far greater
worth than what has been extended.
Yeah, that's pretty selfish stuff. And once exposed for what it
is, manipulative patterns and the purveyors thereof tend to be
summarily looked down upon with disdain by society.
And last I checked, "society" was made up of roughly 50% women.
Contrast that entire concept with ambition. One who is ambitious
could be described as knowing what he or she wants, and having the
confidence and the plan to transform goals into realities.
If true to their focus, such individuals tend to go on to become
CEOs, heads of state, cancer survivors and/or perennial all-star
point guards.
We love stories of ambition and those who author them. And we love
watching ambitious people succeed--especially when the odds are
against them.
But make no mistake: Ambition is still all about an individual and
his or her personal desires.
So what gives? Selfishness? Manipulation? Ambition? What's the
difference?
First of all, in order to break free from backing off from the kind
of women we want to deserve (or the career, adventures, friends,
etc. for that matter), we have to stop using "selfishness" as an
excuse to cover up what's actually pure fear in most cases.
Social martyrdom is typically nothing more than a cover-up for
insecurity and flat-out worry.
manipulation is the low-road because therein selfishness exists in
a vacuum. We're talking absolutely zero concern for the needs and
welfare of others.
It's ALL taking, all the time. What's more, the manipulator
betrays a common knowledge of right vs. wrong by
attempting to mask intentions.
Meanwhile, ambition leaves room for others to come along for the
ride to success. Implied is an over-arching goal to make sure
one's life MATTERS.
Also implied is the desire to succeed in a way so as to make the
world a better place in a way only he or she uniquely can.
Sure, there can be a fine line. Some people can become somewhat
destructively selfish in the name of ambition, most definitely.
For example, Lance Armstrong's particular brand of ambition
conquered cancer and enabled surreal athletic achievements. But it
also has repeatedly steamrolled anyone close to him and gotten
him into some trouble.
Ultimately, it comes down to this: Manipulation drives great women
away because it is ultimately rooted in sniveling weakness.
Ambition, on the other hand represents the direct approach.
He who is ambitious openly states his intentions in broad daylight
and exerts the power and leadership to reach goals.
And ambition, therefore, is extraordinarily attractive to women.
Ambition, simply put, transcends "selfishness" by directing one's
vision for success in a path that leads to great things. Others
want to be in on that. And make no mistake, great achievements are
predicated upon it.
Leadership, confidence, having a plan for success. That's pretty
much what women want out of a man. And that's why guys who break
the speed dating rules (for example) get the girl.
Sure, they put their needs ahead of others...but not ahead of the
women they choose to invite into their lives.
So where do you stand? Are you watching from the sidelines so as
not to "impose" on anyone?
If so, I fully understand how unraveling all of what we're talking
about here can be a real challenge. I've been there. But I know
there are real solutions to getting where you want to be.
For sure, there are no "quick fixes" or "band-aids". But, the
great news is that it can all happen for you much, much sooner than
you think.
Are you ready for a character-based approach to attracting great
women that does away with manipulation and trickery once and for
all?
I'm all about grooming you for unimaginable success with the highest
echelon of women through genuine masculine strength, dignified
integrity and personal power.
All you need are the right tools...and the ambition to take action.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. The brand new episode of The Mountain Top is on a very
similar subject to this one. Take a look:
https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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Ultimately, it comes down to this: Manipulation drives great women
away because it is ultimately rooted in sniveling weakness.
Ambition, on the other hand represents the direct approach.
He who is ambitious openly states his intentions in broad daylight
and exerts the power and leadership to reach goals.
And ambition, therefore, is extraordinarily attractive to women.
Ambition, simply put, transcends "selfishness" by directing one's
vision for success in a path that leads to great things. Others
want to be in on that. And make no mistake, great achievements are
predicated upon it.
Leadership, confidence, having a plan for success. That's pretty
much what women want out of a man. And that's why guys who break
the speed dating rules (for example) get the girl.
Sure, they put their needs ahead of others...but not ahead of the
women they choose to invite into their lives.
So where do you stand? Are you watching from the sidelines so as
not to "impose" on anyone?
If so, I fully understand how unraveling all of what we're talking
about here can be a real challenge. I've been there. But I know
there are real solutions to getting where you want to be.
For sure, there are no "quick fixes" or "band-aids". But, the
great news is that it can all happen for you much, much sooner than
you think.
Are you ready for a character-based approach to attracting great
women that does away with manipulation and trickery once and for
all?
I'm all about grooming you for unimaginable success with the highest
echelon of women through genuine masculine strength, dignified
integrity and personal power.
All you need are the right tools...and the ambition to take action.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. The brand new episode of The Mountain Top is on a very
similar subject to this one. Take a look:
https://mountaintoppodcast.com
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This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
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