[X&Y] How To Get A 2nd Chance At Getting Her Number [Field Report]
Published: Sat, 09/22/18
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IN THIS EDITION: Have you ever kicked yourself for not getting a
woman's number? Here's how to get a "mulligan".=====
"LIFE IS WHAT HAPPENS WHILE YOU'RE BUSY MAKING OTHER
PLANS"
PLANS"
Ever seen that quote before? If it happens to be the story of your
life, this is a "must see" for you:
Here's the thing. You probably have lots that you want to
accomplish...not only when it comes to relationships, but also at
work and in your social life.
And how many items have you crossed off your "bucket list" lately?
Life is short. We all know it. Yet somehow we still "let things
slide". And that sucks.
Here's how to become one of the few and the proud who actually get
over this problem and become hyper-achievers:
Yes, this about being a real man. And yes, this is also about
being a man who represents what a high quality woman really, truly
wants.
Make this day the one you mark down as THE day you finally got this
part of your life handled. No kidding...
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HOW TO GET A SECOND CHANCE AT GETTING HER NUMBER
[FIELD REPORT]
[FIELD REPORT]
Not long ago I did a Ten-Plus Live with a guy we'll call James
who, like most guys I meet, had lots going for him. All he needed,
really, was to be empowered to meet women, get numbers and move
relationships with them forward.
Even though guys have flown from as far away as Asia to do
Ten-Plus Live weekends with me, this guy was from right here in San
Antonio.
On one hand, that was super convenient for him.
But on the other hand, it meant that meeting women over the course
of the weekend might very well lead to something real...it wouldn't
necessarily serve as simple "practice". The stakes were higher.
So with all of that in mind, on Saturday afternoon we did the
obvious. We went directly to a particularly upscale shopping area
that was literally about a five-minute drive from where he lived.
Where better to meet hotties who a likely to live in his own ZIP
code, let alone his area code, right?
Things started working well right off the bat...as they typically
tend to, actually.
Just to demo what's possible, I started things off by approaching a
very cute young woman of about 23 who was having lunch with a
friend.
"Okay, I have to ask...how did you get your teeth so white? Did you
have to bribe your dentist to get VIP treatment, or something?"
She covered her mouth and started giggling...as did her friend. "Do
you really think so? Actually, I drink coffee and red wine all the
time, so I really have no idea."
I reminded her that having white teeth is a good thing, so she
probably didn't need to cover her mouth. The next thing you know
she's touching me on the elbow and talking away.
I excused myself and returned to James before she got any ideas.
After all, I'm a happily married guy so I had no intentions.
As I've always said, talking to ANY woman is just a
conversation...until YOU decide you want to take things further by
showing interest and following up.
The next stop was at a department store. Imagine a 23-year-old
Salma Hayek, only more slender. I hope you have a good imagination
because if so, it will reward you.
Our hero took her right out of "work mode" and led her into being
playful. Perfect.
The next thing you know, she's laughing, touching him and telling
him how "funny" he is. She's asking James where he's from, etc...so
there's clear interest there.
By the way, making women laugh is indeed powerful. Bur remember,
you don't really have to be a comedian...all you need to do is help
her have FUN. FUN is enough to make women laugh. Very nice.
The time came to get Salma Hayak, Jr.'s number and he actually did
an admirable job for a guy who probably hadn't put himself in this
good a position to do such a thing in ages.
Still, the girl clearly wasn't the type to just give her number
away to guys she'd just met. She asked for his instead.
Once James and I reconvened I let him in on an observation. When
that sort of thing happens, it's almost always because her comfort
level isn't quite yet where it should be.
With breathtaking frequency, it's often effective just to simply
tell her that everything will be alright, and that it's okay if she
gives him her number.
Women tend to follow a man's confident leadership.
The day was still young.
A bit later we happened into another shop. Working there was a
truly adorable "girl next door" type who pulled off the sexy
"librarian" look with perfection--complete with the right glasses.
Now visibly more confident than ever, James started a conversation
with her. The woman's personality seemed to be what you would
have hoped for from someone like her. She was precious.
James and I had agreed that when I sensed a woman he was talking to
was interested, I'd casually walk away from the scene for a bit and
return a text or something.
Besides, we'd gone over exactly how to get a woman's number ahead
of time: Simply suggest to her that the conversation should
continue later, and tell her she should give him her number.
So hey, the last thing James needed was me looking over his
shoulder at "crunch time".
A few minutes later, James exited the shop.
"So...what's her number?"
"I...um...don't have it."
"Oh boy...what in the world happened?"
"I just...didn't get her number. It didn't happen"
I paused for a second. There was no sense in browbeating him over
this.
"James, consider the worst thing that can happen here. We already
know she's a sweetheart, so she's not going to insult you and kick
you in the crotch. Maybe she'll refuse to give you her number.
But will that really hurt worse than NEVER knowing for sure what
could have happened...simply because you did nothing?"
He knew the answer to the question. Settling for the status quo
was the biggest potential bummer.
I added, "...And how much better are you going to feel when she DOES
give you her number? My educated guess is that it'll probably be a
lot better than SHE feels right now...wondering why you never asked
her for it."
"You're right. But I've already left the store. How do I get her
number now?"
The best solution in cases like this is to spell out to her what's
going on...without pretense or cover-up.
"Try this. Return to the store, find her, tell her that you really
did enjoy talking to her and that she should give you her number so
you can talk more when she's not working."
The dude went back in the store without so much as a hiccup.
Awesome.
Less than a minute later he was back.
"Man, that's got to be a world record."
"Not so fast", James said, "She wasn't there. I can't believe
it...she's already gone to lunch."
It hadn't been five minutes since he was talking to her...yet the
opportunity had seemed to have vaporized into thin air. Ridiculous.
Now see, if 90% of all guys wouldn't ever have approached this girl
at all, let alone ask for her number, then you've GOT to believe
that at least 99.9% would throw up their hands and give up by this
stage.
That wasn't going to happen on my watch. It was time to reach for
what it takes to be in that top .01%.
I quickly went over the plan with James, and then it was time to
execute.
Going back into the store a third time, James found the woman's
co-worker--who had seen everything.
In a friendly but direct manner, James said the following to her.
"You know, [name] and I were having a great conversation, and I've
decided we should talk more later. I realize she's at lunch, so
I'm going to leave a note. I'm counting on you to make sure she
gets it, deal?"
The co-worker said she'd be glad to help.
Now fully in "wingman" mode, I casually added, "I think the two of
them kind of looked cute together, what do you think?"
"Agreed", the co-worker said with a smile.
We already knew from the earlier conversation that the two women
worked with each other all the time, so we could now determine with
reasonable certainty that lunch-break chick must indeed be single.
Outstanding.
The note James wrote read, "I returned to find you because I
enjoyed meeting you and we should talk again. " It was signed with
his first name and phone number. He was sure to write very clearly
instead of scribbling.
As we left the store I simply said, "Now, no matter what happens
you've at the very least got the satisfaction of knowing you did
everything in your power."
About five hours later we had picked up Emily and were enjoying a
nice dinner downtown.
James' phone buzzed.
The message read: "Hi James, this is [name]. I'm still at work
but thought I'd drop you a quick text. :-)"
Mission accomplished. Long story short, within short order it was
clearly evident that she was truly interested.
James met even more women that night, including a sexy brunette who
was having a "tough night"...until he visibly brightened it for her.
Over 3am breakfast at IHOP, I realized that the track record
remained intact. Another Ten-Plus Live had concluded, still
without there EVER having been a bona-fide negative experience
approaching women for any guy who's done one.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. We don't do a whole lot of Ten-Plus Live weekends, but there
are a select few more openings this fall.
If you've been considering doing a "bootcamp" in order to finally
become a man who approaches women and meets them at will, I
challenge you to consider the massive difference that live,
real-time 1-on-1 coaching could make:
Ten-Plus Live is a high-end experience that's not for everyone.
If interested, I'll need to get on the phone with you to make sure
it's a good fit and to share the details.
Write me at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com to arrange that call.
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