[X&Y] 7 Things You Must Never Do With A Woman You Just Met
Published: Fri, 10/12/18
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here are seven deadly actions with women
that we're often FULLY AWARE of, but do anyway.
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WOMEN ADORE YOU WHEN YOU MEET THEM
For the first time in a while, I'm doing a Facebook Live video
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After today's quick video chat, you'll have a brand new way to
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I guarantee you've never heard it talked about anywhere else,
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7 THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO WITH A WOMAN YOU
JUST MET
I've received several e-mails from guys lately serving as poignant
reminders that our mess-ups with women aren't always due to
"unconscious incompetence". Not by a long shot.
I mean, I've heard the phrase "no brain, no pain" plenty of times,
as I'm sure you have also. But sometimes what we do really gives
that concept new meaning.
Guys have even been known make admissions to the effect of, "I
know what I'm doing is going to cause her to lose attraction or even
make her run away...but I keep doing it anyway."
You have got to stop that stuff, gentlemen.
With that in mind, consider the following seven bullet points
collectively as the Things That Must Never Be. As you read, create
a mental trigger just to STOP IT whenever the overwhelming
temptation to do ANY OF THESE comes over you:
1) Buy Her Stuff
OK, I get it. I fully understand that we as guys are hard-wired to
be "providers", and we're typically very good at it. We even LIKE
taking that role.
But I'm telling you, it's a little too early to go into "provider
mode" on the first date. In fact, I've watched guys actually buy
women presents BEFORE they even ask them out.
Trying to "buy her affection" is way, way different than being a
"provider". You "provide" for people you genuinely care about and
are responsible for in one way or another.
A woman you've just met (or NEVER met) isn't exactly there yet.
So your efforts come off more as a pathetic form of bribery than
"provision".
It's not only sure-fire failure, it's expensive sure-fire failure.
Even worse.
2) "Surprise Visits"
If you take nothing else from this newsletter, beat into your head
once and for all that women CRAVE safety and security.
Knowing that, keep this simple formula in mind:
STALKING + AMBUSH = NOT SAFE OR SECURE
Sometimes I'm almost ashamed I have to write certain things out in
black and white. But chalk it all up to questions in my e-mail box
like these gems:
"How do I get a woman to be attracted again to me if I'm not
allowed to see her anymore? Like, a judge said I can't go within
100 feet of her."
Or...
"She closed my communication with her on eHarmony, but I think
I know enough about her to figure out where she works. Should
I show up at her office [Ed. note: ...which happens to be in another
state, as it turns out] with the most beautiful flowers I can find?"
I've received several e-mails from guys lately serving as poignant
reminders that our mess-ups with women aren't always due to
"unconscious incompetence". Not by a long shot.
I mean, I've heard the phrase "no brain, no pain" plenty of times,
as I'm sure you have also. But sometimes what we do really gives
that concept new meaning.
Guys have even been known make admissions to the effect of, "I
know what I'm doing is going to cause her to lose attraction or even
make her run away...but I keep doing it anyway."
You have got to stop that stuff, gentlemen.
With that in mind, consider the following seven bullet points
collectively as the Things That Must Never Be. As you read, create
a mental trigger just to STOP IT whenever the overwhelming
temptation to do ANY OF THESE comes over you:
1) Buy Her Stuff
OK, I get it. I fully understand that we as guys are hard-wired to
be "providers", and we're typically very good at it. We even LIKE
taking that role.
But I'm telling you, it's a little too early to go into "provider
mode" on the first date. In fact, I've watched guys actually buy
women presents BEFORE they even ask them out.
Trying to "buy her affection" is way, way different than being a
"provider". You "provide" for people you genuinely care about and
are responsible for in one way or another.
A woman you've just met (or NEVER met) isn't exactly there yet.
So your efforts come off more as a pathetic form of bribery than
"provision".
It's not only sure-fire failure, it's expensive sure-fire failure.
Even worse.
2) "Surprise Visits"
If you take nothing else from this newsletter, beat into your head
once and for all that women CRAVE safety and security.
Knowing that, keep this simple formula in mind:
STALKING + AMBUSH = NOT SAFE OR SECURE
Sometimes I'm almost ashamed I have to write certain things out in
black and white. But chalk it all up to questions in my e-mail box
like these gems:
"How do I get a woman to be attracted again to me if I'm not
allowed to see her anymore? Like, a judge said I can't go within
100 feet of her."
Or...
"She closed my communication with her on eHarmony, but I think
I know enough about her to figure out where she works. Should
I show up at her office [Ed. note: ...which happens to be in another
state, as it turns out] with the most beautiful flowers I can find?"
You are NOT charming her by sneaking up on her...ever. In fact,
you're creeping her out or maybe even scaring her to death.
This goes double if she doesn't like you.
3) Call Her More Than Once A Day
It's one of the most important rules in attraction: Leave her
wanting more.
You can't possibly do that if you lack the patience to go 20
minutes (or ten hours, for that matter) without hearing the sound
of her voice.
One time a guy told me that he knew that calling her every couple
hours or so made him look clingy, but it was just like smoking
cigarettes. He couldn't stop doing it.
Yeah well, both the phone (or worse, incessant text messages)
and the cigarettes are equally deadly in that case.
4) Ask Her If She Likes You
The saddest part about this blatantly needy action is that it's
completely unnecessary.
Look, man. If she's STILL THERE and she seems to be having fun,
she LIKES YOU. There's no need to ask.
If she's making excuses to avoid you and/or can't get away from you
fast enough when you're on a first date together, she DOESN'T.
Look alive out there and there's zero guesswork involved here. I
promise.
5) "Steal" A Kiss
Kisses aren't something you shoplift. In fact, the consequences
tend to be the same as if you stuffed a pack of gum in your shorts
at Walgreen's and got snagged as you attempted to walk out with it.
That is, you'll have caused yourself sudden and extreme disapproval
over something completely silly.
Plus, you're likely to become the next poster boy for the #MeToo
movement.
So if you get the feeling she isn't ready to kiss you, show a bit
more restraint than a two-year-old.
Believe me, it's not like you DON'T come off like a potential
rapist when you try to force a kiss to happen. Think about it.
But the tragic part is that oftentimes a woman might have really
WANTED to kiss you, but needed just a bit more time to feel safer
and more comfortable around you before it was naturally going to
happen.
Again, safety and security is paramount.
As such, getting impatient is basically the most counter-productive
thing you can do in that situation. Understanding women better is
a powerful skill.
6) Mimic Her Voice Or Behavior
She has a cute voice. She does cute things. Your natural tendency
is to "mirror" her. You start giggling a bit and talking like she does.
MISTAKE.
Women are NOT attracted to the feminine behavior and traits that
drive YOU wild as a man.
In fact, for women like the one I just described, the deeper your
voice and more calculated your gestures the BETTER.
Femininity is attracted to masculinity. That's as simple as it
gets. Anything short of that is a one-way ticket to the Just Be
Friends Zone.
Save the "mirroring" for your next job interview, unless the hiring
manager is a woman.
7) Compare Her To Other Women
I don't care if you're seeing a dozen or more women right now.
When you're with any ONE of those women, focus your attention
completely on her. She should be the only woman in the world
to you while she's there.
Don't mention what another woman you know said or did. And
whatever happens, NEVER compare a woman you're with to
someone else you're dating--at least not out loud.
We're talking about ANY kind of comparison here. It's not just
limited to comparing personalities or physical features.
For example, it's also a mistake to say, "I was out with Susie last
week and SHE didn't mind it when I took her to this restarurant, so
what's YOUR problem?"
Mentioning other female friends and drawing comparisons between
them and the woman who is in front of you is bad enough.
But bring either your sister or especially your mother into the
conversation, and you might as well just say "good night" right now.
If there was ANY semblance of attraction there, you just
bludgeoned it with a blunt object.
Okay, okay. Clearly most of what I've written today was for
"entertainment purposes" for the vast majority of you.
A bit of comic relief can be a good thing.
Nevertheless, I'm not naïve enough to think that at least one or
two of the points above didn't hit just a few of you squarely
between the eyes.
If that's the case, don't beat yourself up over it (well, unless
you can relate to the restraining order thing, maybe). Instead,
just STOP IT before it STOPS your success with women dead
in its tracks.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. I've got an all-new episode of The Mountain Top Podcast
coming for you tomorrow night. Heads up, though...this is one
of those shows that might hit a hot button or two. Guys NEVER
want to talk about this topic, yet it's insanely important.
Subscribe here so you'll be the first to know when it drops:
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