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KARAOKE GAME


I've been ranting for two podcasts in a row about how bars & clubs
are overrated places to meet MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex).
And I'm famously relentless when it comes to harping on how trite
it is to keep focusing on having "game" there.  All of that's true.

And yet, take a wild guess what I'm going to talk about today.

But before I do, allow me to be perfectly clear.  The world is
indeed saturated with the same warmed-over advice about how to
"game" each other when out on the town.  But Sunday night, a
flat-out wild realization hit me like a bolt of lightning while
Emily and I were out at...well...a bar.

There is one angle of this whole "bars & clubs" schtick that I've
never heard talked about anywhere.  Karaoke "game".

So what caused this epiphany?  Well, basically Emily and I have
both known for quite sometime that karaoke joints tend to be
naturally more social places than most bars.  This is
understandable.  After all, you're in an "interactive" setting
where the audience is self-generating the entertainment.  This
makes fellow co-participants want to talk to each
other...congratulating or even co-conspiring with each other.

Sunday night was no different...except for two key events.  First of
all, there was the decidedly average woman who booted herself at
least two notches up any man's raw attraction scale upon belting
out the World's Hottest Rendition of Carrie Underwood's "Before He
Cheats".  Shortly thereafter, something even more mind-bending
happened.  A few minutes after completing my first "selection"--a
particularly soulful one that nobody could have predicted I'd go
for--Emily had several decidedly hot young women tap her on the
shoulder, gaze longingly into her eyes and say something to the
effect of, "Oh...that was so dreamy.  How come my boyfriend can't be
like YOURS?"

As if that wasn't shocking enough, the looks and comments actually
RAMPED UP as the night progressed.   Emily's "perfectly imperfect"
take of "Hella Good" didn't hurt.  Neither did hearing every
chick's voice in the place singing along with my hard-practiced
"Jumper" by Third Eye Blind.

So it hit me:  Karaoke "game"--when strategized and executed
correctly--has got to be the most naturally effective version of
"night game" imaginable.  Seriously.  Get this right, and men and
women BOTH can practically own the whole place, driving
"interest-level" on the part of the opposite gender so
rambunctiously in the process that people are practically throwing
numbers and e-mail addresses.

Let's break it down.  First, here's WHY:

1)    It takes REAL CONFIDENCE to even get up there.  Doing

so provides HARD evidence.

 

2)    You cause every hottie in the room to NOTICE YOU, even

as you get this done without any shred of NEEDINESS

whatsoever.

3)    You get MAD SOCIAL PROOF without begging for

approval (just for showing up, really...even if you're verifiably

terrible).

4)    Everyone understands you have a REAL PERSONALITY

and that you might actually be FUN to hang out with.

5)    You get to make eye contact with whomever you want from

up there--all while in a position of leadership over the whole

room.  

Wait a minute...all of those bullet points sound familiar.  If my head is on

ATTRACTION.  And all in one simple step?  Are you KIDDING ME?

No.  I am most certainly not kidding you.  Remember, however, that
I did complicate matters by mentioning that both STRATEGY and
EXECUTION have to be on-point.  Otherwise, it ain't happenin' for
you.

So you know WHY, here's HOW:

1)    Get Up There  

You have to participate in order to reap the benefits.  And 

here's the best part:  You DO NOT have to know how to sing. 

Think about it.  There are people you can name off the top of 

your head who have RECORD CONTRACTS and can't carry a 

tune in a bucket.  The strategy?  Pick songs by those people! 

(Duh).   Now, on the other hand, if you were the star of your

high-school choir and/or you can sing along to the radio in the 

car like a freakin' rock star...I don't want to hear any more 

excuses.  The world is yours on a silver platter here.  Sack up.
 

2)    Plan Your "Set" Ahead Of Time

It's important to pick a few songs you think you could

theoretically nail to the floor ahead of time.  Then, get on iTunes
and drop a lousy buck for each one.  Then play them ten times

in a row until they are STONE COLD.  I know one guy who truly

can't sing, but has some Weird Al song down so ridiculously

that he brings the house down with it every time.  Practice...it's

worth it.  Smoothness rocks even over raw talent in most cases.

3)    Mix It Up

This is a major way to go from "participation" to "looks of awe

and amazement accompanied by unsolicited approaches from

everyone present".  Say you decide you feel comfortable with a

particular hip-hop tune.  Next time you get up there, throw down

something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.  Going from

rock-station anthem to R & B classic works particularly well.

  Whatever the case, work hard to have at least one slower,

libido-inspiring arrow in the proverbial quiver of tunes in your

repertoire.  If you are summarily freaked out by even getting up

there for now, this can wait.  But work towards it.


4)    If You Already Have A Date, Sing To Him/Her

One time I busted out with "Sara Smile" to a woman named

Sara, who I'm pretty sure still talks to her friends about it even

though the guy who did it is now married--to someone else. 

What made the whole gig even more poignant is that there was

NO CHANCE of guessing that a guy like me would pull that one

out of the ether.  Jaws dropped.  Nice.


5)  Bring Energy

You've heard that you need to bring high energy when "opening

a set".  This is no exception.  In fact, "energy" equals

"awesome" a shockingly high percentage of the time.


6)  Collaborate And Be Social

High five others when they are done.  Ask the next table over

what they are singing.  Find someone to sing the male/female

duet with you (nice).  Are you beginning to see how this can be

like "shooting fish in a barrel"?  Just leave the guns home.


7)  Dance To Other People's Songs

Emily and I did this--when nobody else had--and what do you
know...everyone else joined us.  Not only do you show some

leadership when you do this, you validate whoever is on stage. 

Make friends, influence people, create attraction.

By now, you may be thinking, "How come I never figured any of this
out before?"  If you are like most, it's because you've long ago
ruled out any chance of anyone dragging you on stage.  Get over it,
and watch amazing things happen.

Next week, just to keep things interesting, I'm going to roll out
YET ANOTHER strategy for bars & clubs that you've NEVER HEARD
BEFORE.  And trust me, it's equally as obvious as today's was...once
you get it.  Best of all, next week's will work in the boardroom as
well as the barroom.  Killer.


Be Good,

Scot


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